Confinement at own mom’s or MIL’s?

Currently planning on confinement. My mom is a working mom whereas my MIL is a housewife. My MIL’s house is extremely clean, neat and tidy whereas my house is normal, sometimes can get messy. Thing is over at my MIL’s if I do my confinement there, there is a single bed for me and my hubby will sleep on the mattress on the floor. And honestly I am not that comfortable staying with my in-laws (also a lot of pantang) as compared to my mom’s. Both moms can help to cook confinement food for me. My MIL also mentioned that she can help to look after the baby (take turns). It’s just that I feel restricted there. Whereas my mom is a working mom, I can’t expect much from her but I’ll be more comfortable at my mom’s. My hubby wants me to confine at his mom’s (more freedom for him in a way) but for me, I know I’ll not be very comfortable. Help.

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I would prefer own mom’s. Your mom knows the best :) Less frustrations / comments haha. & More comfortable. She can prepare baby’s bathtub / washing bottles / or milk pump etc in advance or after work. Depends your mom working shift or office hour. Why not can ask your hubby to sleep over to help especially night time. He can help during e weekends too. Does Your mil able to help during night feeds? Or help to carry baby to you? For straight 28days/30days.

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Rae

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4y ago

How’s sil feedback? Don’t worry so much. You can communicate with your mom about house cleaning. Voice out to her. I’m sure when baby arrive your mom will auto to clean the house as much as she can. Every house hold definitely have some flaws. My mom’s house is full of stuffs haha. But most importantly is hygiene towards baby and mummy have a comfort stay. Baby will always on cot sleeping for 1st-2nd months in the room. You also need to bed rest as much as possible. Maybe if you free tidy then room as much as you can before baby arrival. Yes own bed is definitely more comfy. Especially breastfeeding, trust me :) I know some mil is very OCD. If you forgetful n replace somewhere, she may give comments. After birth, you will feel more sensitive about most of the things. :)

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