My boyfriend’s ex-wife is back, and pregnant

My boyfriend had separated from his ex-wife for 2 months when we met. After dating him for 5 months, he found out that his ex-wife is pregnant with his child. It didn’t end our relationship and because I love him, I let him be a father to his child. Now, the baby is 3 months old and my boyfriend has been spending more time with them. I think he’s falling back in love with his ex but every time I ask him, he would say he’s only there for their child. Should I trust him or should I just end our relationship and save myself from getting hurt?

My boyfriend’s ex-wife is back, and pregnant
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Just end it if u are always in doubt and feeling insecure. Furthermore if u want to go longer in this relationship, u have to accept that he will always have dealings with his ex wife regarding the child, or spend more time with his child. If u and him have a child together in future, how are u going to balance between his ex wife child and your own child if u can't handle this now?

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If I were u I will end it. It's long term suffering for me as I need to "share" my husband's love for long term, And constantly fearing he might fall for his old love and leave me. Too much risk to take. Even if he decides to marry me, I will not proceed, a paper doesnt mean anything when your heart is not happy and your mind is not free from worrying.

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6mo ago

you will find your own happiness.

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Better to end , why to hurt ur life .. he can’t stop his blood relation right .. u have chance to get ur own healthy family so don’t ruin it .. let him b go happily to his own family .. u may get ur own single soulmate .. better don’t follow married man .. hope u got a good solution for ur beautiful life

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I’ve a similar situation with you. I would suggest just end it. For my situation he would stay at his ex wife house everyday. You don’t even know what they are doing in that house. If you keep on holding on, you will be the one getting hurt.

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In the long run, you may be the one getting hurt. You can stop him from taking care of his son and since he is spending more time with them, it is better to end with him then to quarrel with him over this issue constantly. I'm sure u can find another good man

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So sorry of what happened. But it’s better if you try to find somebody else. Because he got a child and a child can never be an ex-child. Unlike wife can be ex-wife or whatever. Are you willing to accept his child? If not then you better leave him.

End it. It hurts but there will be better days. Unless you’re pregnant or have his child already. Otherwise, can always fine someone else . His child need a father and a mother especially at his young age

why did he break up with his wife in the first place? is it an emotional spur? because it can happen to you too. now you are eventually becoming a family breaker. besides there are millions of better guys out there.

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Too complicated and too exhausting. I will suggest you not to fall deeper and distract yourself with other things and activities. Otherwise all the paranoia and thoughts will surely eat you up someday.

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I think you need to talk to him about your feeling on this and how your can handle this together. Example, you can visit together with the kids or can you let him stand in your point of view to think?