Thoughts on abortion

Hello, It's been a week since I found out I was pregnant and confirmed in the polyclinic I went. An estimated prediction of pregnancy was 7 weeks. I had talks with the father of the child, he was actually happy about the whole pregnancy (he haven't think about the future yet, but was just happy that he could be a father). After a few days and confirmation of pregnancy, we had a talk about our future and also a referral to KKH for scans. I told him that if he did not want the baby, we should go ahead for abortion and not waste more money on scanning and all - which he did think and he also was given a few days to 'calculate' and think about our future. I was actually heading towards abortion because it was too sudden and we are not that ready both financially and because of our families (my family doesn't like him a lot and his mother don't like me at all) But because he was so happy earlier on when I broke the news, I was very invested in trying to ensure I take good care of my body for the pregnancy and maybe my thoughts changed for abortion. When he came back to me upon going through all the reflections and thinking, he told me maybe abortion would be a better choice for our situation. I was half happy because it was something I wanted but at the same time I cried alot at the choice he had also decided, it was maybe because I was so invested in this whole pregnancy I wanted to keep the baby - even though I am worried about the future. Please advice if it would be better to go for abortion instead of giving birth in this situation because I am torn on this.

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My dear even if he wants abortion.. the decision is up to you. I have aborted before when i was young.. and it haunts me until today. I cried myself to sleep sometimes, thinking about babies I have chose to abandoned. I had struggle getting pregnant years after, not sure if its because of the abortion but I had to go through IVF. I am currently 32weeks pregnant now and no matter how happy I am.. I still remember the babies I’ve had before.. and I missed them dearly. Choose what is best for you. But trust me that you will never be the same person anymore. If you choose to abort.. don’t make the same mistakes that I did, leave that guy. You deserve better. All the best.

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