Thoughts on abortion

Hello, It's been a week since I found out I was pregnant and confirmed in the polyclinic I went. An estimated prediction of pregnancy was 7 weeks. I had talks with the father of the child, he was actually happy about the whole pregnancy (he haven't think about the future yet, but was just happy that he could be a father). After a few days and confirmation of pregnancy, we had a talk about our future and also a referral to KKH for scans. I told him that if he did not want the baby, we should go ahead for abortion and not waste more money on scanning and all - which he did think and he also was given a few days to 'calculate' and think about our future. I was actually heading towards abortion because it was too sudden and we are not that ready both financially and because of our families (my family doesn't like him a lot and his mother don't like me at all) But because he was so happy earlier on when I broke the news, I was very invested in trying to ensure I take good care of my body for the pregnancy and maybe my thoughts changed for abortion. When he came back to me upon going through all the reflections and thinking, he told me maybe abortion would be a better choice for our situation. I was half happy because it was something I wanted but at the same time I cried alot at the choice he had also decided, it was maybe because I was so invested in this whole pregnancy I wanted to keep the baby - even though I am worried about the future. Please advice if it would be better to go for abortion instead of giving birth in this situation because I am torn on this.

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Please don't abort. You are taking away one's life. You may regret for life if you terminate. There must be a reason the baby choose both of you as his/her parents, so please accept. There are many couples want to conceive but unable to, so please think thrice. As long as the baby's father is a good and right man for you, you may ignore his mother or your family likings. They will change when time to come. Financial wise, don't worry too much. Just provide whatever both of you can afford and spend wisely. Don't compare with others. 船到桥头自然直. 🌈💪

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Whatever issues and choices made in the past that had distant your aunt and you, I believe she still dote you as she took care of you since you were young. Perhaps have an outing and dinner with her during this festive season, and let her know your situation. She may be disappointed and feel painful but she will definitely support you. Meanwhile, be careful on your diet, take folic acid and fish oil. Don't worry too much. You should be happy and enjoy your pregnancy. Remember no matter how bad the situation may be, it will soon be over and awaits us are scintillating days. 💪🌈🍀

I won't advice nor blame the situation here. Its hard to decide this as well. Everyone has their own perspective on their future. I once been in your situation that i have to struggle to abort or not. As i felt financially drained due to covid and my mental health issues. However i ended up having her, didn't regret. Honestly speak to your family and his family about this too. Do Not Abort it w.o them not knowing. It might dont end well or ended what you expect but it's consider the baby matter of life too. I hope you can find the choice you want.

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My advice to you would be give birth is better cause once you abort it you can't move backwards as you already abort it and confirm plus chop you will live with regret so best is still give birth and not to mention at that time my family members expect my dad doesn't like my boyfriend cause of my big bro keep saying something which is not true to my family members and at the age of 16+ going to 17 i was force to abort by my boyfriend and his family and my family just because i was going to 17 and still at secondary school

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Hi, i tink dont abort. Because you are fortunate that you can be pregnant. There are ladies out there who want to have babies but they just cant. Just like me, i had miscarried twice. The baby is innocent. Do not take away its life just bcoz u r not ready. Perhaps you could have a talk with your family. Or maybe you can also consult counsellor. Hope this helps. Hugs.

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Theres is no right/wrong its depends on individual couple. No matter if you have an financial issue. Bt the baby is innocent, if you are afraid of looking after the bby due to financial wise you may get an advice or counselling from the experts(doctors/MSW/those financial assistance) or you may want to put the bby up for adoption. Do think wisely abt it ok 😊

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I aborted mine 15 years ago and i still remember and regretted it. The ultrasound image is forever etched in my head and i still remember seeing a heartbeat. The guilt stays with u for life. I am now 36 but at times as i recall that, i still cry. No doubt u may say i deserve it but this guilt will stick to me for life.

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Think carefully, don’t care about what others have to say. A baby is a lifetime commitment that will change your entire life. If you are not ready an abortion is ok, it’s up to u no pressure. Next time when ready can always try again...

i hope you can keep the baby if money is the issues only. i aborted once 5 years ago and currently pregnant now. now that i think back. your parents will definitely help you. also you can apply government schemes to help u............

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Are you 2 genuinely in love? Is he the one you want to spend the rest of ur life with? And also vice versa? If the answer is yes, speak to both side parents before making a decision . Good luck girl

Things are tough, this is a decision I think you have to discuss w ur family too, esp if u feel like u do want to keep this baby? Alternatively, are there adoption/fostering options besides abortion?