Thoughts on abortion

Hello, It's been a week since I found out I was pregnant and confirmed in the polyclinic I went. An estimated prediction of pregnancy was 7 weeks. I had talks with the father of the child, he was actually happy about the whole pregnancy (he haven't think about the future yet, but was just happy that he could be a father). After a few days and confirmation of pregnancy, we had a talk about our future and also a referral to KKH for scans. I told him that if he did not want the baby, we should go ahead for abortion and not waste more money on scanning and all - which he did think and he also was given a few days to 'calculate' and think about our future. I was actually heading towards abortion because it was too sudden and we are not that ready both financially and because of our families (my family doesn't like him a lot and his mother don't like me at all) But because he was so happy earlier on when I broke the news, I was very invested in trying to ensure I take good care of my body for the pregnancy and maybe my thoughts changed for abortion. When he came back to me upon going through all the reflections and thinking, he told me maybe abortion would be a better choice for our situation. I was half happy because it was something I wanted but at the same time I cried alot at the choice he had also decided, it was maybe because I was so invested in this whole pregnancy I wanted to keep the baby - even though I am worried about the future. Please advice if it would be better to go for abortion instead of giving birth in this situation because I am torn on this.

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I will never ever support abortion unless it's because of health issues. Sorry! And I personally think this is not the right place to ask for advices for sensitive issue like this. You really have no idea about the guilt and regret after that. I have friends who even went through depression after abortion and having a hard time conceiving! Oh, and have you watch videos of abortion? You really should you know. The pain your innocent poor baby has to go through. Crushed, sucked and disposed off. And most probably, forgotten after that. A lot of couples are waiting to be blessed with a lil miracle but you, you chose abortion instead just because of lame, stupid reasons like financial issues 😑, family not liking each other and what not. You could have work it out with asking for financial help, work OT, do online sales just to earn the extra cash for your baby. Trust me it's totally worth it to work hard for your child! Do sit down, just alone and think. Think and re-think again. Is this the right decision? The baby is ½ you and your beloved. You both can try to work it out to win your parents hearts. Otherwise, pls do choose adoption. Give your baby a life. A better life. There are many eager couples who will willingly and are happy to adopt your innocent baby. Abortion is NOT the easy answer to your problems.

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