Thoughts on abortion

Hello, It's been a week since I found out I was pregnant and confirmed in the polyclinic I went. An estimated prediction of pregnancy was 7 weeks. I had talks with the father of the child, he was actually happy about the whole pregnancy (he haven't think about the future yet, but was just happy that he could be a father). After a few days and confirmation of pregnancy, we had a talk about our future and also a referral to KKH for scans. I told him that if he did not want the baby, we should go ahead for abortion and not waste more money on scanning and all - which he did think and he also was given a few days to 'calculate' and think about our future. I was actually heading towards abortion because it was too sudden and we are not that ready both financially and because of our families (my family doesn't like him a lot and his mother don't like me at all) But because he was so happy earlier on when I broke the news, I was very invested in trying to ensure I take good care of my body for the pregnancy and maybe my thoughts changed for abortion. When he came back to me upon going through all the reflections and thinking, he told me maybe abortion would be a better choice for our situation. I was half happy because it was something I wanted but at the same time I cried alot at the choice he had also decided, it was maybe because I was so invested in this whole pregnancy I wanted to keep the baby - even though I am worried about the future. Please advice if it would be better to go for abortion instead of giving birth in this situation because I am torn on this.

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Hi there i was in a pretty similar situation 2years back n I ended up being forced to go through the abortion at 23weeks, I was still pretty young back then. Afterwards I fell into depression n everything spiralled downhill, I tried to take my own life more than thrice, drank my nights away but nothing seemed to help n it was until I met my husband then things slowly starting getting better for me, I got pregnant again n we kept the baby, now I have a 9month old n I honestly couldn’t be happier. We aren’t well-off n do struggle financially sometimes, our parents r willing to help alittle for the sake of the baby. My point is, think throughly because money issue can be resolved, there are many grants u can try applying for. I would’ve been better off being a single mother back then n struggle financially than to have went through all of that. However, if u do decide to abort, u will need support, considering the fact that u were so invested in this whole thing, there are gonna be days where it’ll get lonely, but someday soon it’ll all get better.

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