Thoughts on abortion

Hello, It's been a week since I found out I was pregnant and confirmed in the polyclinic I went. An estimated prediction of pregnancy was 7 weeks. I had talks with the father of the child, he was actually happy about the whole pregnancy (he haven't think about the future yet, but was just happy that he could be a father). After a few days and confirmation of pregnancy, we had a talk about our future and also a referral to KKH for scans. I told him that if he did not want the baby, we should go ahead for abortion and not waste more money on scanning and all - which he did think and he also was given a few days to 'calculate' and think about our future. I was actually heading towards abortion because it was too sudden and we are not that ready both financially and because of our families (my family doesn't like him a lot and his mother don't like me at all) But because he was so happy earlier on when I broke the news, I was very invested in trying to ensure I take good care of my body for the pregnancy and maybe my thoughts changed for abortion. When he came back to me upon going through all the reflections and thinking, he told me maybe abortion would be a better choice for our situation. I was half happy because it was something I wanted but at the same time I cried alot at the choice he had also decided, it was maybe because I was so invested in this whole pregnancy I wanted to keep the baby - even though I am worried about the future. Please advice if it would be better to go for abortion instead of giving birth in this situation because I am torn on this.

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The both of you should have known better that sex = pregnancy. pls take precaution if you are not ready to be a parent. it's a living baby with a heartbeats. You don't know how much those little beating heart mean to couples who yearn for a child don't you? Only now then you are suddenly bringing up about both parent's disapprovement? if that was a real concern, you shouldn't have stayed together. Work it out like a responsible adult. Internet is not the right place to ask for opinion to kill or keep your child, just like you don't ask for public opinion whether to have sex or not. pls spare a thought for the growing baby and not delay more time if you gonna end its life. if you decided to go for an abortion, pls take this very important advice, in the future, pls use protection or keep your legs close up! I may be too harsh with my words but that's the best advice I could give you. Good luck!

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