Upset and heart brokem

Back to work after 3months of taking care of my baby Upon returning home my baby is happy to see me she will smile. But when feeding time she will scream and cry till mil take over. When sleeping time she will scream and cry too till my mil take over. Night time I take care of baby .. She will wake up a few times keep kicking. .. tried feeding. Her but she will skip her milk doesn't wan to drink .. den she will falls back to sleep. Feeling she is rejecting me wad can I do ? And I dislike my mil saying... U don't like mummy huh why don't let mummy carry? And keep saying I always carry baby, baby will get use to it. No ppl is free to always carry. And keep mention to hire a helper so she is free to carry her the whole day. I don't knw but is anyone facing this kinda issue ? My mil and fil is staying with us .. daytime she is the caregiver. Night time I am the caregiver. And I don't have a caring husband basically he only play with baby for awhile den he will go back and do his stuff.. and always mentioning I am too over protective towards my baby . I feel upset and broken. I don't understand y I have this type of husband ... He is not ready to be a dad ? He always tell me findin ways to earn money for baby. Or am I wrong? Am I wrong to feel all this ? Sometimes I just feel like leaving and I feel that mayb being a single mum is much more better .. I can decide and won't be judge by in laws by husband.. y must we have a family ? His mum always say if this house no her we will die -.- she does all the housework I am grateful but if really no in-laws I feel mayb we will be more independent. In-laws doesn't have a house. Feel my husband is not ready to be a dad Being thru iui,IVF,and finally got pregnant and finally csect and finally baby is here y do I feel that my husband is still like a kid. He keep on complaint that I stick to baby..and over protective .. am I? On the verge on breaking down I just feel like walking away and lead my own life with my baby. A new mum which is lost in the middle of the woods...what should I do? Am I wrong?

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u will always have a special spot in baby's heart! (: I felt the same with my mil for my first born n she's also the only one who can calm him down when she carries him. so I hid in my room n bf him all day whenever he cries LOL. now with my no. 2 she is less dependent on comfort n can better self soothe, plus my mil is more busy coping with housework for the expanded family now. it's super annoying sometimes the things that they say, but on the other hand their time with ur child is limited as they are older n u may move away next time. I've also been telling myself that I need to let go cos my children will go to school etc n have other people that they will become attached to. maybe next time ur mil wants to carry ur baby then just let her but have a renewed mindset that u can also enjoy whatever u now have some free time to do (: n my husband always tell me to ignore my mil whenever she says annoying things, though I'm still finding difficulty doing it in a way that doesn't make me view her as an outsider / ignore her completely. but maybe u can try!

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