Superstitious MIL

Anyone having superstitious mil like mine? And how do u avoid having any clashes etc? My mil seem to be superstitious about so many things, cannot let baby look in the mirror, cannot call nicknames, cannot hang baby clothes out at night to dry (she took away a few sets of new baby clothes that we left out to dry, saying we CANNOT let lo wear them), cannot throw baby's outgrown clothes away... And the list goes on & on... I feel like I'm walking in a minefield everyday living with my in laws lol, dont know when what I do will irritate her and everytime my hubs & I ask why we cant do this or that, she will say 小孩子不要问这么多 and look scared. Worse is she dont tell me "her rules" directly, always tell my hubs in hokkien even though I'm standing with my hubs right in front of her (hello??) and telling my lo "ur mum so bad, dont care about u, always do these these stuff to harm u" few time right in front of me! WTF! Damn rude & damn annoying! Ranted to my hubs about these few times alr and he just brush it off saying his mum is like one just ignore will do. But his parents insist to look after lo when I get back to work in Jan and seriously this is not the style I want my lo to be learning after ?

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I think it’s rude for ur mil to be bad mouthing you in front of ur kid. With her taking care of ur baby after u return to work, imagine what kind of things she will do to to poison ur baby’s mind. Also, I think u need to get ur hubby to be on the same page as you. You 2 need to be 同一阵线. And he should stand up against his mum. If he continue to brush it off, ur mil may think that ur hubby is ok with it. Nevertheless, I believe you and ur mil both have ur LO interest at heart, but just show in different ways. In order to reduce conflict. I would send to infant care.

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