Validate my kid's emotions

Alam ng 3 years old ko sabihin kung siya ay nagagalit, natutuwa, excited, grumpy, etc. Although minsan hindi pa talaga accurate. I always do my best to validate my son's emotion lalo na yung mga negative. Ang problema ko yung parents ko. Pag "grumpy" or "angry" ang anak ko parati nila sinasabi HINDI dapat ganun or BAD magalit. Example: naiirita na anak ko sa kakakulit maxado ng papa ko. Tapos sasabihin ng anak ko nagagalit na daw siya at sasabihin ng lolo wag BAD MAGALIT. so idedefend ng anak ko "pwede magalit" I accept na naiirita na xa and I'm quite glad na alam nya sabihin kung ano nararamdaman nya. As a person na pinalaking invalidated ang emotions by my parents di ko alam kung paano ko sila dapat iapproach. Nagagalit kasi ako pag ginagawa nila sa anak ko kung pano nila ako na invalidate. I couldn't find the words na hindi sila masasaktan. So what i would always do kinakausap ko anak ko ng kaming dalawa lang at pinapaliwanag ko na okay lang yung nararamdaman nya. At lagi ko siya nireremind na mali ang manakit or mag tapon/manira ng toys pag galit. #advicepls #firsttimemom #pleasehelp #VIParents #growingtogetherwithmom #3yrsold

Mara Esplana

Queen bee of 1 naughty magician

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Hello. I hope I can impliment that too on my child. When did you start validating your childs emotions? Your doing a good job momsh. Continue defending your childs right to express feelings. Siguro you can explain sa parents mo in a scientific way, like "studies shows that traditional parenting is blah-blah-blah", show proofs na rin from Drs or Parenting Coaches from IG etc, para they don't feel attacked.

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Sarah Mae

30 | Married | First Time INA to a TODDLER | ig: s.a.r.a.h_m.a.e | TAP since 2020

1y ago

That's really nice. My daughter is almost 2 na, she's talking already. She can make-face with different basic emotions, but I haven't tried narrating what she's feeling when she's feeling it or when I'm feeling it kaya I don't really know if she truly understands them. Minsan if she sees I'm angry she just laughs 🤣 And If I pretend to be crying to make her stop hitting (gigil moments) me sometimes she'd cry as if she's the one who got hurt or try to hit me even more 🤷🏻‍♀️🤷🏻‍♀️🤣🤣 I think I should start narrating what we're feeling too, so she can't just make a face out of it, but can use it to express what she's feeling. Thank you for the Tips ❤️ Appreciate it ❤️

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You are doing a good job then mom! Keep it up po..

Great job on breaking generational trauma!

break the cycle 💓 ur doing good

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