After giving birth my son I thought that I could see some changes in him but there is still no improvement, I don't know how to live with him anymore and I am running out of patience. He don't like to listen to me and even he ask me and I advise him but he still do his ways, after which he find out that what I had advise is right then he can still tell me that what I said is right but he did not listen or follow, it just go on and go and repeat many times the same scenario, I just ignore as since after giving birth I had been busying with lo and didn't care much. He never failed to surprise me with things I hate or don't like, today he used the "铁打酒“ I don't know I spell correctly, he just apply in a air con room when lo is sleeping, so I just tell him you should apply that in an air con room and some more this kind of smell not sure if is good for lo to smell, I have heard lo smelling those mothballs and become like differently, so I am afraid of it, then he is unhappy and just get out of the room and sleep in the living room. Is really hard for me to communicate with him and I don't wish to anymore , I guess I am going to end this as I don't want to feel unhappy and I am not going to live like this for the rest of my life.

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First, I don't know if ur husband is like that when baby is not here yet. If so then I think it is totally normal for him to still be like that. How did u use to communicate w him? If communication was really bad then why did u marry him? U cannot expect things like marriage or baby to change him because it is not a magic spell. Husbands are thick in the head sometimes and even if he ask for ur opinion he has all the right to decide what to do and even if he doesn't want to follow I don't think u should fault him. If ur husband helps u, u are blessed and fortunate. If he doesn't, it's normal. U also don't know if the Zheng Gu jiu is harmful anot and men being men they don't think too much at times and just use it. It is not harmful but most have eucalyptus content - the "hot/spicy" feel. If too high concentration it can be teary to baby's eye I don't think u should end it. Talk to ur family or friends or get counseling Opting out on the marriage now is definitely a wrong choice (unless there is abuse). It will be difficult and hurtful for the rest of ur life and ur baby's life. It looks like a short cut to end it all but it will just be another torturous journey

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