Mum To Be, Singapore

Recently I went for a business trip, and when I came back, my sis in law ask my son if he miss me. My mil gave a disgusted look. All along she doesn't want my son to be close to me... but I wonder why can't my son be close to me.. I am the mum. I don't feel my husband know the pain in me... who is so evil to want the child not close to the own mum.... I really have enough of my mil... I can't trust her at all with my son..she wan my son to be closer to her than me... nobody understands the fear and pain in me... since my son is born, she being saying nasty things to me. Sometimes i feel so stress that i feel so despair about my life... my husband is also definitely closer to his family than me. When i was pregant that time... i had bleeding on his niece birthday and he gave me a look like i purposely try not to attend the birthday. After going to hospital for the jab, i still have to go to the birthday celebration of the niece...I feel so alone.. #adviceplease #firstimemom

Since my son is born, my mil each time she see me carry my son, in less than 1 min she will ask me to pass to her. Then if my son finds me she is not happy, will grumble say he sticks to me. But everyone around me say my son is not those who scare of strangers. He went to my company team bonding and my colleagues also carried him. My mil is the only one who keep complain he stick to me. Even now he is two, I carry him she will ask me put him down. Even in the carpark, he is so short, how can she expect me to let him walk in the carpark. Then if we go put together, any other persons carry him she never say anything. The moment I carry him she ask me put him down or called him to her side... what is she trying to do??? Its making me feeling very uncomfortable.#firsttimemom #pleasehelp #advicepls

After 5 years of my marriage and through ivr, I finally had my boy who is 2. So I thought I am not so easy to get pregnant. Who knows, I got pregnant when I was not even trying. Everything seems smooth. Had all the pregnancy signs. However, after multiple tests and scans, my baby girl was having trisomy 18. The fetus specialist says only one side of the heart was functioning and there were other issues with the heart as well. So even if we give birth to her, no surgery could help. We finally decided to terminate the pregnancy. The process was so scary especially when I felt my girl drop out of me... its been several months. though life goes on, nobody knows the pain that remains in me. I keep thinking is it my sins that cause my girl to be so sick....

My mother in law is always hoping my son won't be close to me... since young until now he is two. She really constantly saying hurting words like your mummy walk away, you smile. Then yesterday my son didn't wait for me and walk away with my father in law, she will make comment like see he left.... and give a smile like very happy he left without me.... I really don't know what's wrong with her. I don't even know how to trust her with my son... its to the point I don't want to see her..... I really feel so stress being around her.#advicepls #firstbaby #firstmom #pleasehelp

Hi mummies, first time mum here. After my boy started playgroup, he has been sick so often… for the past two months he was down with cough and flu. Got better went to school a few days and sick again. The cycle keeps repeating itself. What do you all do? And how are you going to tell your boss u keep need to wfh?#pleasehelp #advicepls #FTM #firsttimemom

I feel so stressed and almost scared to be with my mil that I keep avoiding her. She knows but i can’t help it. She will grumble when baby sticks to me… if baby throw tantrums and don’t want to eat, she will ask me what I cooked. My kid loves bread and recently I baked pastry for him and she saw and start to grumble eat bread again… I compromised and went on a long trip with my husband’s family. During the trip she was always asking did I do this did I bring that… I really feel very stressed up being with her… instead of being appreciative that I went long trip with her even though I could spend my leave with my own family, I visit her more than my own parents. She is always complaining to my fil and my husband saying want visit grandson so difficult. Cause she wants to come as and when she wants….what will you do???

Do we need to wash minced meat before cooking for baby? Bought from ntuc; the auntie says no need wash… and how to Wash if need to?#firsttimemom

Hi, anybody continue to breastfeed while being pregnant and manage to give birth to healthy baby. I am worried about whether the unborn baby will be able to get enough nutrients…. How do you ensure you eat enough?#advicepls #Needadvice

I have not managed to wean off my 16 month old son. Will there be any issues? Any tips to wean him off. #advicepls #Needadvice Also, am I able to continue to carry my son ?

I am not sure if the way I am feeling is normal. From the moment I conceive, my mil seems to be snatching my boy from me. She stayed with me for about 5 months. Every time I carry him she will ask me to pass to her. Then in the beginning when baby was close to me, she will blame me say cause I have longer maternity than others. Then when I walked away, she will say hurtful things like mummy walked away, you smile ah. Now baby is one year old, everytime I go her place, she will use gai gai to bribe him. So today as usual and baby just crawl to her and wave bye bye to me. I feel heart pain leh. Then cause I am breastfeeding, she been asking me if I have let him take milk powder. I think there is a possibility that she want to make him stay over at her place. I really don’t know how… I told my husband and he say I am thinking too much. But from all her actions I can see she is trying to make baby close to her and to want her and stay over. Using gai gai and go swimming to bribe him….#advicepls #firstbaby #pleasehelp