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Unreasonable MIL
My hubby and I bought a big enough house to accommodate my parents & sis in law. Total of 4 bedrooms - 3 taken by my in laws and 1 for ourselves & 9mo son. In order to help my pil retire comfortably in the next 2 years, we decided to let them stay together with us and rent their own house out as a mean to collect passive income for retirement. Fast forward 1 year later, things got very uncomfortable to continue staying together. My mil brings up money matters to argue with us every other day. Back ground info - She's working full time at home with 3k+ income, has an allowance of $500 from my hubby, rental income of 2.3k (to spilt with my fil) but v unhappy to be spending the money to buy groceries and cook for our family of 6 (approx. 6 times a week for dinner only). We also hired a helper to look after the baby to relieve my mil from child caring duties while both of us continues to work. Me and my hubby paid for the SP bills, conservancy fees, Internet bill and buy rice, cooking oil, washing detergents, tissue paper for the household. I don't mind losing out a little in terms of money but she has been giving me a lot of unhappiness. I cannot comment on how she oversees my helper and cares for my son. In short, I'm supposed to close 1 eye in everything that she does. The best is not to make any comments at all. Our differences are increasing gradually. This got magnified further with an incident that happened on sunday. My friend surprised me with a upsized cup of bubble tea and I met her at the mall to collect it. When I returned home, my sil was very angry that I didn't get one for her (I will always get an additional cup for her whenever I buy one for myself) and slammed her bedroom door (I didn't know this until my mil texted my hubby the next day to tell him about this). My mil said that it's my fault that I didn't even ask to share some with my sil and if I were to only get one cup, I must go up to my room and drink discreetly. What will you do if this happens to u?
Staying with in laws
Anyone has their in laws staying with them permanently and how does it feels like for u during this circuit breaker period ? Especially with in laws at home while u WFH and with a few months old baby?
Milk feedings for 6.5mth baby
Will milk intake reduce at this stage? My son's feeding schedule for recent days is: 7+am: 120ml 10+am: 120ml (Sometimes left half) 12+pm: Fish porridge 2 or 3+pm: 120ml (Can't finish) 6+pm: 120ml (Can't finish) 8pm: Cereal 11pm: 150ml (Dreamfeed) 3.30pm: 150ml (Dreamfeed) Should I be worried? My mil is saying we shld change the formula but I'm comfortable with Nan 2 HA. Baby been drinking Nan 1 HA since he's a newborn.
Baby's weight
Weight of your baby as of 3.5 mths? Mine is hitting 8kg, drinking 120ml of formula on average 3 hrs cycle. What about yall? Is my bb overdrinking and if the actual volume (water 120ml + formula) is 140ml, do I say is 120 or 140?
kid's education
Is your mil actively involved in your kid's upbringing? My son is 3 months old and she already say she wanna queue up to register him in 'branded' pri sch around our area in future. Am I too petty to feel annoyed by this?
Screen time for babies
These few days my mil been really keen to let my 2.5 mth old baby watch nursery rhymes on youtube to assist his learning and also to occupy his waking hours. There's once he watched for about 2 hours in between feeds while me and my hubby was out. I've told her nicely that it's best to cut down screen time and talk/play more to baby but she did not take it very well. She say its better than letting baby 'gong gong' lie on the sofa or go to sleep. But the thing is I'm having my maternity leave now so I spent a lot of time with baby teaching and training his motor skills and not just let him idle away. Any advise? Same thing for drinking water, she insist of letting baby drink some when he's difficult to calm down. She went to the extend of getting second opinion from her younger brother and his wife even though we told her that it's strictly advised by the Paediatrician not to give.
Food cravings
Hi all, if you have a sudden craving during lunch on working days and your clique may not want to eat at the place you have in mind, how do you resolve it? Lunch alone to keep yourself happy or go with the flow and risk your mood going down?
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