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Nalika Unantenne, Singapore
Household goddess of 2 handsome little heart throb
About Nalika Unantenne
I want my child to grow up to be someone who believes in himself yet is down to earth. A rationally positive individual who is selfless and respectful towards others. A non priority would be for him to be academically tip top. As long as he does the basic of what is required academically,I am more than contented.Read more
I wish that my child will be happy and healthy, most importantly. I also wish that he/she will be kind, well mannered and down-to-earth. Be a person of good character. Finally, he/she must be filial :)Read more
I wan my boy to be healthy and eagle to learn new things
I wish that my kid will stay happy, healthy and caring.
i want my girl to be happy and healthy now. she is recovering from a prolong cough and thats my only wish
I wish my kids will be happy and healthy.
I want my kids to be happy and healthy. That is all:)
I want my son to be happy, healthy and safe - that's all I wish for. My goals as a parent would be to make sure he enjoyed his childhood, has fond memories of family time together and to be able to figure out his interests :) Of course, other things like moral values, manners etc are important too - but my focus would be to minimize the gap he feels (I'm a single mum, he has speech delay, we don't exactly have good finance or family background etc).Read more
I agree! I would rather they can adapt to environment change , experiences than academy
Let them go through the motion. When they need you they’ll come to you and that’s when you can start using these as teachable moments to guide and do deep talks ◡̈
I agree with the other mums here. I let them quarrel without getting physical. I don't allow them to hit each other. If they are really upset with each other, I have encouraged them to sit down and talk. Sometimes that involves yelling and tears, but it's okay, at least they're talking about it.Read more
Unless it gets dangerous I don’t bother to interfere too much. These are practical ways to learn problem solving and negotiating! And some of the best memories of childhood. 😀
I just let them fight! As Long as they are not doing anything dangerously crazy to each other.
I let them be when they're not hurting each other (at least not too much) haha.
Most obvious would be feeding on demand and can go up to an hour or so. Else, for mine would have changes in sleeping pattern. Shorter naps, cranky.
I read that babies going through a growth spurt will sleep more than usual. Apparently, there are important physiological changes that happen during sleep that are essential for baby's growth.
The most obvious would be keep wanting to drink milk despite already ded him/her. Especially if u r breastfeeding, u will feel fhat milk is nvr enough. Like for mine, he usually drinks every 2hrs maximum but during this period, he wants milk almost every hour.Read more
In addition to the above answers, some forms of vision correction for myopia are spectacles, contact lenses, refractive surgery and orthokeratology. With traditional spectacles and contact lenses, they focus light rays onto the retina to provide clear vision. Unfortunately, peripheral light rays may be focused at the back of the eye ball causing elongation, which means an increase in myopia. As a means of myopia control, there are several ways, of which the most effective methods proven are Orthokeratology and/or Atropine eye drops. With the former, there will be no need for day time spectacles or contact lenses as the patient will have clear vision for about 18 hours while the latter requires the patient to continue with spectacles as a form of vision correction. Both forms of treatment have been proven to control myopia by about 50%. With Orthokeratology and Atropine, we normally talk about the risks and side effects respectively and it will be best to discuss with your practitioner to see if a particular treatment is suitable for your child.Read more
If the degree increases dramatically in one year, you could go and make an appointment at the Singapore National Eye Centre. The doctor may prescribe your child with an atropine drop, to be administered daily for two years. My child has completed the treatment and it was effective for him.Read more
Myopia is corrected with spectacles. There is no cure for myopia and the best thing one could do is to try and slow down it's progression. Practicing good eye care habits would help. Some good eye care habits include: - Holding reading material 30 cm away from the face/eyes, and try to read while sitting upright rather than lying down - When watching television, the television should be approximately 2-metres away - Computer screens should be approximately 50 cm away from the eyes and adjusted to minimize glare - Lighting should be sufficient to illuminate the room when reading, using the computer or watching television, but not cause any glare - Encourage your child to take a break to rest the eyes every 30 to 40 minutes of reading or watching television; look out the window at far away objects and do eye exercises to relax the eyes - Encourage children to spend more time outdoors. For more information, do take a look at this article: http://www.snec.com.sg/eye-conditions-and-treatments/common-eye-conditions-and-procedures/pages/childhood-myopia.aspxRead more
Take the child to a dentist to see if the decay is deep and if your child needs to get it filled. Chances are, the dentist will recommend to leave the tooth be as it is due to fall out soon. Ensure that your child maintains a good habit or brushing and if he's ready, flossing. A diet of moderate amounts of candy, soda pop and chocolates will be good as well.Read more
You could bring him to a dentist to get it filled. This will prevent it from further developing and minimize the risk of getting an infection as suggested by Avantika. I've heard of some dentists suggesting to simply leave it so I think it will be better to consult one for his/her professional input.Read more
Yes, you should. While it is said that kids start losing milk teeth once they turn five, sometimes an infection can run deep down in the gums and might affect new teeth as well. This is why doctors insist on having your baby's teeth checked every six months. Good oral hygiene is necessary and one should start practicing it even before the first baby tooth appears.Read more
The best way to tackle your relatives opinion is thank them and give them the valid source about why you raise your children that way.
I will just smile and will not reject his/her opinion. There was once I argued with a relative on my approach in parenting and it turned out hurting our relationship. Thus, I will just take comments as a pinch of salt. Unless, the person is very rude and insulting, I will definitely stand up for myself and kids.Read more
Yup, same as what everyone is saying. Good to keep an open mind, thank him/her for the input and consider if the advice would be helpful to the situation. While there are some who always have something to comment, there are also some comments that may be worth considering. At the end of the day, just do what you think is best for your child. You need not explain yourself to others but if you feel a need to, just tell them your rationale so that they could understand your point of view. Even if they feel that their way may be better, you have the ultimate say. Smile and just tell them you would still prefer your way for now.Read more
Few people are impossible to deal with, just ignore them. Thank god, I have so much of patience and I always been a good listener. So my advice is to try to be a good listener, you know what is best for your kid.Read more
You will encounter such people almost at every step of your parenting journey and the best way to deal with such people is hear them out but do what you feel is best for your kid. This way, you do not upset or hurt their sentiments and still get to do all things parenting. Plus, you never know, you might get actually get some good advice or get to know about something you didn't know before.Read more
Smile and in this way, you acknowledge what they say but that doesn't mean they are right. If they keeps repeating especially old folks, tell them nicely that you will teach your own child and thank them for their opinions.Read more
There is always someone who does this!!!! I know it is irritating, frustrating etc etc but have an open ear. Ignore stuff that contradicts and you already know is the best practice. But if it contradicts and you do not know about it, it might be worthwhile to do some googling. Best way it to hear out else you will end up discussing even more and frustrated even further :)Read more
Best way is to smile, nod and walk away. If they insisted of you saying something. Just say i will think about it. This way you wont offend anyoneRead more
unless its for your child safety i hv always been against CCTV to keep an eye on helper its mean try build relationships hv trust
For security reasons, yes. I've placed hidden cameras in my baby's room and public areas of the house – like the living room, kitchen and dining room.
I do have a camera at my place when the nanny is alone with my child. While she is pretty trustworthy, I somehow feel more assured when there is some form of surveillance
In my personal opinion, if someone's not doing anything wrong, then there should be no fuss about being watched as a precautionary measure. They offer a security and protection for your home and for your kid, so I wouldn't be surprised to see that a lot of people use them.Read more
I do. Even though i bring my kids to work with me. I still install cams to monitor the kids while i'm my room busy with something else. Nannycams are also something as a backup if things happened, you are able to find a reason.Read more
Fever is a sign of infection. You should worry if the temprature more than 38C. If you breastfeed, go give your baby as many breastmilk as you can before you go to doctor. Hug him and don't forget skin to skin contact, it helps to reduce the fever.Read more
A fever in babies can be one of the scariest symptoms for parents, especially when that fever is high or the baby is only a few weeks old. A fever isn't an illness -- it's a symptom of one. A fever usually indicates that the body is fighting an illness. If your baby has a fever, in most instances it means he has picked up a cold or other viral infection. Although they are less common in infants, pneumonia, urinary tract infection, ear infection, or a more serious bacterial infection, meningitis, may be causing a fever. If required, please proceed to the nearest hospital.Read more
For infants less than 3 months, their immune systems are still developing which leaves them at higher risk for severe infections, thus if the temperature is abnormal, you should send your baby to the doctor right away.Read more
With newborn, it is best to practise everything with caution. Measure the temperature and if it is above 37.5, bring to the doctor for a check.
On top of what Hui Qun has mentioned, it is also important to note that there are 2 types of fevers that afflict babies: viral fever and bacterial fever. A viral fever occurs when the body fights off an illness caused by a virus like the flu, or the common cold. Viral fevers tend to subside within three days and antibiotics have no effect on viruses. Bacterial fever, on the other hand, occurs when the body fights off a bacterial infection like a urinary tract infection, or bacterial pneumonia. Bacterial infections are less common than viruses – and more concerning, because they can lead to serious illness if left untreated. Antibiotics are usually required. Generally, if your baby's fever lasts longer than three days, it's time to see a doctor. http://www.babycenter.com/0_fever-in-babies-7-things-you-might-not-know_10373598.bcRead more
Fever in babies younger than three months old could be a sign of infection and should be brought to a doctor. Because their immune systems are still developing, they are at higher risk for severe infections. If a newborn has a fever of over 38 degrees, please bring him/her to the doctors. Also, if the baby has a body temperature of lower than 35.6degrees, it is also a cause of concern and medical attention is needed. For more information: http://sg.theasianparent.com/fever-treatment-for-children-remedies-for-fever-in-children/ http://www.pamfblog.org/2014/01/fever-worry/Read more
I applied breastmilk for one kid and it cleared up. Another had a more severe case and a topical mild steroid was prescribed by her paediatrician.
Like Idza's friend, my friends mostly use breast milk for baby acne as well. Just apply a few drops to the spots. Another one tried this mixture: one teaspoon of honey with one teaspoon of lemon juice. Apply a thin layer (keeping clear of baby's lips and eyes) and gently wipe off after 30 mins. Not sure of it's effectiveness as this friend also tried applying breast milk. The acne cleared within two days of using both methods. Baby acne is a common issue and usually will go off on its own even without any treatment.Read more
My friend uses breast milk to clear her baby daughter's baby acne and it works. Breast milk, as we all know, is one of nature's best gifts; in the case of combating baby acne, it works because of its antimicrobial properties. If you're still breastfeeding, no harm trying it -- at least we know that it's free and non-toxic :)Read more
Simply wash your baby's face with mild baby soap and water once a day and gently pat it dry. Have patience. Baby's acne usually doesn't bother them so try not to let it bother you. Do not use over-the-counter acne medicines. Do not scrub, baby acne is not caused by dirt. In face too much washing can further irritate their skin. Do not put oily lotions on their skin. These can make it worse. Some parents report that certain non-oily creams have helped their acne. If you try one, monitor how it affects baby's skin and be prepared to stop using if it makes it worse.Read more
Mastitis is due to an infection (almost always due to bacteria rather than other types of germs) that usually occurs in breastfeeding mothers. However it can occur in any woman, even if she is not breastfeeding and can even occur in newborn babies of either sex. Nobody knows exactly why some women get mastitis and others do not. Bacteria may enter the breast through a crack or sore in the nipple but women without sore nipples also get mastitis and most women with cracks or sores do not. Mastitis is different from a blocked duct because a blocked duct is not thought to be an infection and thus does not need to be treated with antibiotics. With a blocked duct, a mother has a painful, swollen, firm mass in the breast. The skin overlying the blocked duct is often red, but less intensely red than the redness of mastitis. Unlike mastitis, a blocked duct is not usually associated with fever, though it can be. Mastitis is usually more painful than a blocked duct, but both can be quite painful. Thus seeing the difference between a “mild” mastitis and a “severe” blocked duct may not be easy. It is also possible that a blocked duct goes on to become mastitis, so things become even more complicated. However, without a lump in the breast, there is no mastitis or blocked duct for that matter.Read more
A blocked duct is where the flow of milk is obstructed in an area of the breast. It usually occurs gradually. Mastitis is an inflammation of the breast that could be caused by obstruction, infection or an allergy. It may come on abruptly and is usually and is usually associated with fever and likely to be more painful than a blocked duct. With either conditions, heat and gentle massage before nursing may help ease the discomfort. While nursing, continue to nurse on the affected breast and try to get a good latch. After nursing, pump or express milk to help empty the breast. Apply cold compress to ease pain and inflammation. For more information on both conditions, you may find this article useful: http://kellymom.com/bf/concerns/mother/mastitis/Read more