When you have a big fight with your husband, do you prefer to be separated for a while to cooling down the situation, or asked for third person to be your mediator?

For me, i personally prefer to be separated for awhile to cool down the situation before sorting out the actual reason for the fight. It also depends the third person mediator comes from where, sometimes it may seems like the third party mediator is siding a certain party, or may even accidentally added in some words to bring the heated argument back. My husbands likes to solve the situation IMMEDIATELY regardless you are still very angry and not in the right mind. Thus, we always ended our argument in a pretty nasty tone