How’s your Mil? Are you staying with her?

Question

When i was pregnant, living with mil wasn’t that hard even though it was also not easy. My mil is obsessively superstitious to a point she will “go temple and ask God” about everything including why baby is not pooping more than once or breathing heavily. Everyday she has something to nag and always hosting pity party. She will call friends and relatives to talk about me (like I don’t eat alot) .. all the small stuffs but it does not make me feel comfortable. However, I do not have a place to go with baby so I’m just trying to see if anyone is going through such situation or poor relationship/conflicts with mil and how you all manage it?

Anonymous · Answer

Im staying at my in-laws but my mil is staying with her daughter to look after her grandkid. But since it’s still her house, she comes back occasionally and those are the days that drain me the most. She looks through my food stash and nags on what i shouldn’t eat, constant comparing with her daughter, telling me not to have epidural and choose only natural birth, when to wash baby clothes, how to choose my child’s bedding and name etc (so many more), like I don’t know any better. You would hope that they know what it’s like to be a mother and be more understanding, but it’s disheartening when mils are MONSTERS IN LAW. Sorry i don’t have a practical solution for you because till today i still don’t know how to deal with my own mil. I asked my husband to look out and speak up for me but sometimes he doesn’t realise what his mum is doing. It becomes such a toxic environment to live in, mentally and emotionally. I just wanted to share your pain in this and give you a big virtual hug for putting up with her :(