My toddler likes to pretend to kiss me and instead bites my cheeks. When I yelp she laughs. It's actually not funny. And when I shout at her she laughs more. This has happened many times. She knows it hurts me. She does not do this to anyone else. Does my baby hate me, so chooses to hurt me? Or am I reading too much into this? Also can someone tell me how to make her stop.
Children don't know how to hate or fear, these are what we learn from life as we grow up. Your child definitely doesn't hate you, but yes, your reaction was the thing that was funny to her! Most parents think that exaggerating their reactions would help get the message across better, that's why they yell/scold their kids when they're throwing tantrums - but it doesn't work that way. They read into your feeling too, and they can sense nervousness, fear or joy. When you yelp, it signals your daughter that it's an exaggerative expression - which we typically do when we try to entertain our kids, so your child thinks you're playing with her and continues to do it even more! Like what the other mummies have shared, you should be firm and say no to her when she does it - and remember to stay calm without smiling or laughing. If she tries to do it again then just repeat it, and put her down if you have to. Kids these days are smart, so they know if you talk to them about things - including their actions which may hurt others!
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