Time out or time in Mums?

From a very personal perspective I can tell you how time out has shaped my childhood. My dad was a very stern father in the past, and whenever I didn't do well in my exams or tests or misbehaved, I was made to stand at the main door of my house away from everyone else. I can still vividly remember how hard I cried everytime to ask him to let me in. At those moments, I felt deserted, insecure and terribly upset. Following which I was always very stressed up and careful in the things I did. It turned out that I became fearful and distant, and over the long run I didn't like staying home, neither did I have the tendency to share intimate stuff with any of my parents. In fact I shared nothing. I don't want to have such relationships with my child. So I will choose time in. The fact that I can recall it so clearly can tell you how deep an impression it had for me every single time I stood at that door.