Those with no maid , no in law or parents help etc .. how do u n hubby split the housework between the two of u ? Is your hubby calculative / or not calculative ? as in if u can't do your housework cos u are sick or too exhausted from handling children or work, that he will help u clear some urgent ones even though that is not within his scope of housework that is agreed upon?

I will nag at my hubby and he will nag back saying "I throw the rubbish u remember? I got help u lei." Then I give up and do all the housework myself even when I am sick I will just do but when he is free and feel like helping out he will ask me what he can do then I will let him know how to help me out. I feel that when I ask him to do something he will be like erm later then I do or it never be done. So if I do it myself it will be faster. I am a sahm so maybe I feel that everything in the house I have to do. After he came home from work usually he will just go to bed and play hp not even bathing and play until he fall asleep. 😠 Sometime feel that it's not fair as well I go work and f*** care everything which is more relaxing and have more free time. But I can't have to take care of my 10months old and I don't want unnecessary conflict with him so I choose to just do whatever I can. I have no maid or in laws too..