Sometimes, I feel very hopeless. My husband & me r getting more & more distant. Ever since we have our son, his focus is forever about son & himself only. I'm feeling more like an outsider. Whenever son cries, he will first to blame me. After son is born, we only have 1 time sex. And that's becos he doesn't want to anymore. Whenever he has the time, it will be playing games on laptop. I've stopped talking to my mil as we have too many conflicts handling my son since born. And definitely affect my marriage life. I've getting very hopeless in this marriage & family. If husband has no heart & effort to salvage the relationship, it can't only be me one-sided right? I've seriously think of divorce several times but hang on due to dear son. But it's getting v difficult to hang on. Have u ever regretted marrying? I'm really envious of others whose husband who focus on them before children.

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Please try to find a right time to talk to him and tell him how you honestly feel, not in an angry or confrontational way but in a mild and objective manner, and let him know how you're hurting. And try to find out the reason why he's treating you this way. If it's difficult to get him to open up to you, try to get a third party both of you trust (maybe his or your close sibling/friend?) to act as mediator. And yes, please don't ever mention divorce to him if you can't bear the thought of separating; I did that in a moment of anger to my husband and it got really bad. Hope both of you can have a good talk to clear the air and things get better from there! Hug.

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