Sometimes, I feel very hopeless. My husband & me r getting more & more distant. Ever since we have our son, his focus is forever about son & himself only. I'm feeling more like an outsider. Whenever son cries, he will first to blame me. After son is born, we only have 1 time sex. And that's becos he doesn't want to anymore. Whenever he has the time, it will be playing games on laptop. I've stopped talking to my mil as we have too many conflicts handling my son since born. And definitely affect my marriage life. I've getting very hopeless in this marriage & family. If husband has no heart & effort to salvage the relationship, it can't only be me one-sided right? I've seriously think of divorce several times but hang on due to dear son. But it's getting v difficult to hang on. Have u ever regretted marrying? I'm really envious of others whose husband who focus on them before children.

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I think it's normal to feel different from what it used to be before having a baby. I too felt at times that my husband was so attentive to our LO whereas no longer so attentive to me. on a brighter side, at least he loves our LO. Communication is very important in any relationship. Guys tends to be less open up on their relationship. i "complained" to my husband that i felt that he doesnt care abt me as much as he treating our LO. He explained that he does care about me.. and that statement had actually hurt him... if i never open up to him, i will not know how is he feeling too. and i could have just continue to misunderstood him. To be fair to your husband, have a good chat with him. perhaps have your LO to be taken care by your parents or PIL for a while, while the both of you go out, have some nice meal and a good chat.

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