My second son is 3 going on 4. He's been fiddling with his private parts constantly since going off diapers in the day. It even went to the extent of pulling down his pants and fiddling in public. I'm irritated and disgusted and haven't been able to respond positively. * My eldest went through this period too, without the public exposure. I have tried the hard (threaten) and soft (telling him it's shameful) way of broaching the subject. It is still happening. What else should I do to stop that behaviour?

It's something that boys do as they get older, it may seem inappropriate for us as adults, but to them, they are just curious about this extra thing sticking out of their body and what it does. Sometimes, trying to shame them or force them to stop do more harm than good - like what other mummies have shared, just educate him right that it is for him to pee with, and sometimes he might feel weird with it - but it's okay. It's also a good time to teach him about safe/unsafe touches and what to do if someone tries to touch him in those areas! Other than that, just ignore it and they will stop doing it after some time :)