for my firstborn, my husband n i were v protective and anxious whenever she cried. We would rush to her when she woke up at night or whenever she whined a little. This resulted my firstborn to have the reinforcement that she cries, parents will come effect. A bit of manipulation there.
It took her around 16 mths for her to be able to sleep through the night without any feeding in between.
For my secondborn, we were smarter. When he cried or whined, we stood further to watch him. The cries didnt last more than 5 mins. He was able to sleep through at 3 mths old. At 5 mths, he would still whine or cry a little but then soothed himself back to sleep.
the trick now is, offer water after ur 11 mths cried for milk. give him the signal that at night no milk milk. Also, dont jump up immediately when he cried unless he is not safe. Close your eyes and pretend to sleep. It will break his momentum.
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