marry too early

Hi all.. pls dont judge genuinely need some REAL adult advise. it was a shotgun marriage, my husband and I we were together on and off many times since we were 14yo, now 23yo. the reasons we broke off many times before was due to arguments, incompatibility. it was a spur of the moment when we said we wanted a kid and we got a kid hence marrying at 21 and a mom at 22.. during this period, my husband and I did have fun nice memories la but we both feel we r still not compatible with each other we still argue A LOT. when times r good, both of us feel happy and how lucky we r to have a beautiful baby girl. but when times r bad, I start to feel regrets for marrying him but never regretting giving birth to my baby. in all honesty, I've thought of divorcing. but I can't bear to let my daughter go thru this :( After marriage. I've been in and out of depression.. i suggested to go for marriage counselling but he doesn't want he feel we r fine. Some advice pls?? Is this just a phase? or do I just tahan for the sake of my baby?

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im going through something similar n all i can say is, divorce isn’t always a bad thing, it’s only bad if u make it out to be. in fact it’s actually better if both parties will be happier that way, kids will adapt fast n it’s better to let them see 2 happy parents separately as to both parents fighting everyday, the emotional scar that leaves will haunt them.. u should also never stay in a marriage just for the kids, it might seem like the right thing to do but it really isn’t. if u do go through with the divorce, don’t lie to your child about it, talk to them, be honest n explain why u made that choice, show them that u are happier like this, they might not understand it yet but eventually they will. for me, i don’t want my kids growing up thinking that they have to tolerate their marriage just because they have children of their own, if a marriage is not working out, it WILL become toxic very fast n it will definitely affect the little ones. i hope u feel better soon, all the best!

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