Parents with young kids

Hi all, parents do you put your kids at childcare / infant care or your in laws/parents look after them? Am currently faced with a complicated situation which is: 1) In laws are still working full time so unable to take care of LOs (< 1 y/o) 2) my own parents are unable to take care of LO full time as they are close to 70, do not want to put additional strain on them and they are not in the greatest health 3) both hubs and I am working full time 4) infant care/childcare did cross my mind but in laws strongly against it cos they feel that I should be SAHM for the first 4 years of LO’s life 5) getting a helper did cross my mind too but hubs is strongly against it because he doesn’t like an outsider/stranger living in the same house. 6) Hubs felt that i should put LOs with my parents since that’s the only choice so we both can go to work. I can’t afford to quit my job as I still have to provide for my parents/pay loans/bills/mortgage etc :/ and desperately want to put my LO in a IFC/CC near my workplace. Dearest mummies and daddies, how do you cope with full time work plus young kiddos? Thanks all for your inputs in advance.

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Tbh i think it is sad that parents nowadays, who are able and have d opportunity to conceive are jz putting their kids in infant cares at such young age. At this age, kids need their parents the most. Everyone is chasing for the subsidies. What abt the mental and emotional building of the kid that you gave birth to? I know nowadays economy is not that stable whereby the household may need both parents to wrk. But cn't you go bck to wrk when the child is slightly bigger? Say when the kid is gg K1? Why get married and have kids when all you wanna do is go bck to wrk?

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Anonymous

4y ago

Every household have different constraints that they will need to work with. Let’s be kinder and more understanding instead of jumping to such conclusions

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