Any parents here have children and are without the help of either own parents or parent-In-laws? I'm in this situation. Hubby and I are on our own and I'm almost worn out liao. Use to have maid but she stole my things and I sent her back. After that have phobia having maid cos previous maid really gives me a lot of prob. My mom's two maids also created a lot of prob. So I have a bad bad phobia about getting a maid. I have two kids aged 5 and 10 months old. I'm a working mom too. Day time kids go to childcare and infant care. Otherwise, we handle on our own and I feel very worn out. Anybody same situation as me? Can share how u cope?

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Hang in there mom! It's no easy. I am without maid, bad experiences after a couple of try, so I crossed that option out. Both me and hubby are not local, so we neither have parents nor in-laws around. It takes its toll when I have 2. One kid was okay, two is a whole new level. My older one was 2.5 when i give birth to my second one. Approaching my due date, we get in laws to come in for a month to help out. Afterwards, it's all on us. Hubby was working late a lot and I tried not to bother him so much after such long hours of working. Laundry, cleaning, cooking, groceries, doctor appointment, sick kids, one never-ending chores after another. Sometimes I see other mommies and wondering why I can't feel that joy of having kids like they do? In the midst of cooking and crying babies, there are times I question my very existence and purpose of life. I tried to reach out to the people I think will understand what I feel, but they don't. I got judgement instead; what I should do right, what I did wrong, what supposed to be done, and such. Looking back, I didn't know know how I did it. Now my babies are 3 and 5, things are getting better. They are healthy, happy and growing beautifully, very close and dear to me — these are my credits :) You deserve a pat on the back. Don't give up, know that there's light at the end of the tunnel. Don't you ever forget that what you are doing are valuable for you and your family.

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9y ago

Agree! Things are tough now cos your baby is still very young but it WILL get better and more fun when u can rope him/her in to do simple, age-appropriate house chores. That's what i do to my elder son nowadays when there's a bazillion things to be done but only 2 hands to do them all.