P299 Engagement Ring: RED FLAG ba o OKAY LANG?

When I decided to marry my husband way back 2017 to be honest wala akong pakialam sa handa sa singsing sa kung ano pa man ang gusto ko lang makasal kami 'cause I don't to be living in sin anymore 1 year na kaming naglilive in nun nagsabi ako sakanya na gusto ko pakasalan niya ako nung una ayaw ng byenan ko sabi niya pag isipan ko maigi kasi sobrang walang wala sila nun as in isang kahig isang tuka kumbaga yung hubby ko tambay palamunin ng mama niya pero sabi ko di ako magdedemand ng engrande gusto ko lang makasal nakausap ko na yung 2 pares ng mag-asawang pastor na magiging ninong at ninang namin sa kasalang bayan pumayag sila na soft drinks at tinapay lang ipakain namin kasi sila din mismo nagpupush samin magpakasal and then we decided to get married, right there, right then kumilos ang Panginoon yung inexpect namin na simple na parang wala lang biglang ginawang hindi sobrang bongga pero sapat para makapagcelebrate kami ng kasal namin walang amin lahat ng yun provided ni Lord sa grasya ng Panginoon nakapagpakasal kami ng husband ko ng maayos yung 2 ninong at ninang naging 20, yung tinapay at soft drinks naging 1 baboy 20 manok sobrang galing lang ni Lord and now wala akong pinagsisisihan yung tambay at palamunin ng magulang noon turns out to be the most loving, caring, understanding and a good provider sa family na binuo namin ngayon sobrang thankful ako kay Lord na binigyan niya ako ng asawang kailanman di ko pagsisihang pinili ko makasama habang buhay kaya ang sagot ko sa tanong ay no hindi red flag yan. Hindi masusukat ng presyo ng singsing ang pagmamahal ng isang tao kahit yung freebie lang sa chichirya ang ibigay sakin ng asawa ko tatanggapin ko ang mahalaga ay alam kong mahal niya ako it will always be the thought that counts.

Let's focus on the experience of the one whom the guy proposed to, and the guy who proposed to be fair. If it's something about the girl's standard, no question. She has the right to demand, hirap kasi Pag binababa ang demand, di na pinag eeffortan ng tao. And besides 8yrs na sila. Sa 8yrs na yun, di ba siya naka save para sa mas disenteng engagement ring? The guys says on his counter post na breadwinner siya at maraming responsibility, well then mukang di pa siya ready to add and prioritize someone, baka mahirapan siya lalo. kasi If you really want and value something at may effort ka, gugustuhin mong makita ng maayos yung bagay na yun before buying it kasi importante ang pagbibigyan mo. Kung wala ka idea on how much, you can walk by sa mall to canvass to have ideas at mapag ipunan. I don't think it's all about the ring but someone's effort and level of value sa 8yrs girl na gusto Niya ng makasama habambuhay.

of course, Yes! Sa tagal ng relationship namin ay alam ko na ang financial status nya at Di naman sukatan ang price tag sa worth ng pagmamahalan namin. Akala ko nga yang engagement ring ay pang mayaman at celebrity lang, eh wala kami engagement ring for more than 8 years na magjowa, pero okay lang. Nagpakasal kami na SA bangketa lang ang ring tag 50 pesos until now di pa rin fade. Inuna kasi namin ang career namin dalawa, gusto nya kasama nya ako sa pagbuo ng dreams namin. Ngayon ay 24 years as couple and 15 years married: master mariner na sya at accountant na ako pero Di pa rin kami bumili ng mamahalin dahil gusto namin e-invest sa future namin especially na magkakababy na kami. Napag-uusapan ang lahat ng bagay especially kung alam nyo ang priority ninyong dalawa.

Depende po cguro sa situation nung tao. Bka mas priority nya lang yung para s future nla pag mag asawa n cla. Hindi ko nman po nlalahat, but I think there's a valid reason behind that, we just need to ask that person first bago sana ngpost s social media. Baka kase ng expect ng bongga c ate gurl ng mamahalin. I'm 11 years married to my hubby, with 2 kids. Hindi ko po nranasan yung ganyang mgpropose saken yung asawa ko n my ksamang engagement ring. Naalala ko ngsabi yung hubby ko s parents ko n gusto n nya ako pksalan. Walang engagement ring pero namanhikan nman xa w/ my inlaws s bahay nmen. Masaya n ako sa ganun, ang importante walang kmkontra sa pagmamahalan nmen, plus mababait ang mga in laws ko, so pra saken it all depends po sa tao na din.

My husband really set aside a budget for my ring and for both our wedding rings. We got married ng intimate lang, less than 15pax. He didn’t propose until he was certain that he was ready. And I appreciated that. He proposed after being together almost 3 yrs. We’re almost 6 yrs together now. It matters. Kahit material lang yan. It makes you feel valuable and important. BUT of course depende yan sa financial status niyo. LOL at the end of the day, love is not enough. Marriage is a choice. It’s work. It’s a compromise. I personally wouldn’t get married to someone na can’t afford 😭 but that’s just me. 🤧

before you ask for someone's hand in marriage, dapat kilala mo talaga partner mo kasi iba iba gusto natin eh. obviously if na disappoint si ate girl, ibig sabihin the guy didn't consider kung ano gusto ng kanyang long term gf which is weird kasi nga 8 years sila. on the other hand, you should also be financially ready. so if hindi mo pa kaya, wag na muna ipilit. marriage isn't just about love - lets be practical 😄 if that was me, of course di ko tatanggapin kasi hindi yan yung gusto ko. my partner should know me well. i also earn my own money. if di niya afford gusto ko, then he shouldn't think about marriage muna. simple as that 😄

Kame nang hubby q no engagement ring, no promise ring .wala ding proposal na naganap..para lanh kame magtropa na nagkayayaan mgpakasal hahaha..1st date sa fishballan..minsan KKB pa kame sa pamasahe.. take note ..ung dalawa qng exes princess like ang turing saken ..every week nagsisine..my pa flowers pa..ibanh iba sa hubby q.. pero diko alam qng bat sya paren pinili q .now we are happily married at sobrang pinaparamdam nya qng ganu nya ako kamahal...and mas ok na din career nya now... Im very happy happy with my choice 🩷

IT DEPENDS!! Kasi para sakin, depende sa capabilities and priorities niya. If sobrang gastos niya sa ibang bagay, like libo-libo shoes, maluho, nanlilibre ng kaibigan, tas pagdating sa engagement ring P299 lang, ay medyo red flag yan! PERO kapag P299 lang kinaya niya because of financial limitations. at pinagipunan naman niya ng sincere, ay APPPRECIATE KO YAN! Basta at least may thought at pinaghirapan, regardless of the amount

Personally Yes.kc yung ring is just a Tangible, material thing that symbolizes that relationship between two persons na makikita ng iba na silang dalawa na.pero hinde measurement yan yung worth ng love or affection.ang importante dun ipinapakita nya kung ano or hanggang jan lng kaya niya maibigay materially.pero kung true love ang nararamdam mo tatanggapin mo yan ng buong puso.

14 years together, 6 years gf/bf, we have 2 children. yes, i'll definitely accept it. tinago ko na yung engagement ring at wedding rings namin (tattoo yung nagsilbing rings na) i forgot the price or hndi ko talaga alam if magakano yung engagement ring na binigay nya basta kasama ko yung husband ko ngayon,may dalawang anak kmi at never sya nagkulang sa mga needs and wants namin.