It's hard to say when he already state that he know the female friend way earlier then you. Probably he is just being comfortable with the female gamer as a friend.
Voice out nicely to your husband.
tell him your discomfort of him asking about the female bra size and all.
As for him not replying you when texting, it's pretty normal.
my gamer husband doesn't reply me even when i'm right beside him talking
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