My husband and I have not had sex for more than 4 months. I don't know why but I just don't feel sexually attracted to him anymore. What should I do?

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It is actually a pretty common problem faced by many. There are many possible reasons why you may not be feeling sexually attracted to him. It could be due to stress, lack of physical contact, or even physical discomfort during intercourse etc. Here are a few articles that may help: http://www.huffingtonpost.com/entry/7-signs-youre-on-your-way-to-a-sexless-marriage_us_55e77f7ee4b0c818f61a9ff0 http://www.huffingtonpost.com/entry/what-women-in-sexless-marriages-need-to-know_us_55c276fbe4b0f1cbf1e38feb http://sg.theasianparent.com/fixing-a-sexless-marriage/ These articles mentioned a few common causes and some tips that may help with the situation.

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i don't think a sexless marriage can survive for too long. either one of you will crumble and look for it outside the marriage, or will want to move out. it is possible that you are going through hormonal changes, that can often do away with the sexual angle. also, if you are not attracted to him sexually, is there by chance anyone else you are attracted to? try and create situations where it is just the two of you, and instead of the sex, focus on physical intimacy, such as cuddling, holding hands, talking, kissing and so on. see how it goes.

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It happens. Every relationship has its highs and lows. You can see a sexologist - Dr Martha Lee.http://www.eroscoaching.com/ However, I believe that the bulk of it is emotional. If you are very close to your husband, it is easier to be more intimate. Do spend more time together and date each other again to bring back the romance.

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I suggest a short trip just between you and your husband will bring the spark back. Sometimes due to the hectic life and we tend to feel very stressed and tired to intimate with our closed one. If this doesn't work, then you have to have a heart-to-heart talk with husband instead of avoiding it.

Rekindle the spark, spend more time together if you haven't been doing so. Remember why you guys fell in love and a time when you couldnt keep your hands off each other. A quick getaway somewhere just the two of you could help -- doesn't have to be too far, staycations work too :)

It's happening to me now and I have decided to let nature take its course. I think they the day will come somehow.

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It's very normal. Probably find a way to re-kindle the sexual feeling? Watch some sexual movies togetherness

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