My daughter came from her preschool the other day in tears. In the two years that she has been there this is the first time that she has refused to go to school. The last week has been very hard work getting her to school. I asked her if her teacher had scolded her, or if she had had a fight with her friends..she said no. I am unable to understand how to help her or understand what is going on. Can you help please?

Sometimes, it happens with kids when they re-start school after a gap. If this is the case do not worry, she will adjust with time. But if this is not the thing, then make your baby comfortable, take her the park play with her and when she is happy and having fun then try to bring up the topic and she may divulge if there is something that is bothering her in the school. Else, talk to her teacher. It is very important to communicate to the teacher, her discomfort in the school. Teachers are there all day in the school, she may be having a clue. Also, if there's any new activity that teachers may have introduced that she is not coping up with, but other kids may have picked up can bother her. As kids become competitive and they do not like when other kids can do something and are praised for that and they are not. This thing happened with my kid once when I had resumed her daycare after a gap of year. It was the daycare she was going since the age of 1, and suddenly she threw tantrums and used to cry a lot going there. I became very worried that what could be the problem. In my mind I thought of worse of things, but slowly and steadily she became fine. And it came out to be the fact that he had grown up and had stayed with me at home for more than a year, he took more time to adjust in the daycare again.