Feel like a failure

Hi mums. Recently I found that my baby likes to be held by my mother a lot. Whenever I carry her she cries. I carried her the same way my mums Carries her and she cry. But when my mum Carries she is so quiet and calm. I feel like a failure I can’t even carry and soothe her.. and my mum keeps telling me “see, you have to hold her like that”. Whenever I do it doesn’t work. And she kinda mocks me. Im a FTM and my mum doesn’t teach me much. She’s very old fashioned. I’m so frustrated and feel like I failed as a mum who can’t even soothe her daughter

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Hi mummy! I had the same thought as you during my first two weeks postpartum and I had a few episodes of baby blues because of this. Don’t be too hard on yourself okay :) It’s something we all have to learn and figure as a FTM! YouTube helped me quite abit in finding my son’s favorite holding position! Not relevant to your post but I encourage you to read up abit on postpartum baby blues and depression to recognise signs of it and manage them. FTM do fall into depression easily if we don’t have supportive and healthy environment. Jiayou you got this!!!! ♥️♥️♥️

Anonymous

2y ago

Thank you!

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