I need help

Hi mummies,i'm currently 35+5 weeks now,not long till delivery.I'm an unwed muslim mum and i have some questions and rants. Firstly,when my family found out that i was pregnant,they told me to abort or even threaten to "spike" me in order for me to abort naturally.They told me that they don't want to care or look after the baby after i deliver which i say that i'm fine with it cause thru out everything i never ask for a single cent from them at all and its not that i'm arrogant or something but they asked me if the father of the child is taking responsibilities by paying the bills and everything which he did,he bought everything for the baby but now they want to take my baby away from me trying to say that we are not financially stable for a baby and that they don't like the baby's father.I admit we had some issues in the past but we worked thru it. Secondly,i'm currently 24,thinking of moving away from my house,away from my siblings and get married to my baby father after confinement,but i'm afraid that my father disagree with the marriage,can i apply for wali hakim if he does not want to be the wali?and what is the process like? thirdly,its regarding medisave.I might not have enough to pay for my own hospital bill but the baby father do.So is he allowed to only pay for the baby only?and do i have to use my father's medisave to pay for my hospital bill?#1stimemom #advicepls

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I've been through the marriage thingy. I got married without my biological father consent and that's because he's no where to be found. He left me when I was 3 years old, the moment he got divorced with my mom and poof gone! MIA. But there's a lot of procedure I have to go through like A LOT. So much money too... I have to pay for advertising on the newspaper and it cost roughly $400 plus exclusive the other procedures 🙄 But alhamdullilah, after all the ups and downs... I got married.

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my father is alive too 😅 just that we're more like strangers. and because im under my mom's custody, romm gave me 2 options to find my father or take out some money and advertise.. if he doesn't come down to sign then wali hakim. but i suggest you try to "ambil hati" your family. be good to them and talk things out. don't stress, not good for your unborn baby. pray ok.. everything will be ok soon