For me, when it comes to the mental and physical safety of my kids, definitely change. Today she can raise her voice at your kids, tmr she can lay her hands on them. I wouldn’t wait till that happens. You’re supposed to be someone I can entrust my kids to when we go out to work and also help us offload some house chores otherwise we hire you for what right… If I have to constantly worry what will happen to my kids when they’re alone with you and still have to pacify you then I might as well do it myself.