Babysitter

Question

Hi mummies, I am a FTM. Yesterday i have sent my 3months old baby to a babysitter for 1st time. When I go to pick up my son, I have requested the babysitter like below:1) To let my baby sleep one side due to his flat head issues (But she told me no issues with flat head since his 7 years old boy also flat head and sounds like doesnt want to do as per my request)2) I brought my sons pillow and a toy that he used to cuddle when he sleeps and told her how I pat my son sleep. (She ended ask me to bring back the toy cause she said doesnt necessary.) I am not sure how my Baby sleeps or not sure whether he does sleep at her home cause when my baby reached home, he slept 9 hours at night which never happened before. (By the way, today i didnt bring my son to her cause heavy rain, and my son continue to sleep about 2 hours after every feed. Not whether I should feel happy cause this is also an abnormal sign)3) My husband bring bb to her house and i will bring Baby back due to our working timing. Then she requested me to send my Baby a little bit late next day cause she wanted to bring her boy to school. So I told her is ok, I will bring my Baby to you instead otherwise my husband will be late to work. She was like shocked and asked how come we need to take turn? I told her we share the responsibility together ma.. but she  Keep saying dont need so troublesome need to take turn la..bla bla..4) I brought an anti reflux baby louger that my son used to lie on when he drinks milk because my son has that reflux issues. Initially she asked me to bring back also, but end up she said OK just leave it. This babysitter was recommended from a mummy that used to take care of her 2 sons.I am not sure whether my requests are too many? Or I am just worrying too much ? Just feeling not right to see my son acting differently after 1 day stay at her place 😔😔😔

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Different sleep patterns at different places is common actually. Cld be due to the environment. For me, I alternate between my own hse and my mom's hse. My mom takes care of my baby when I go to work and she said my baby hardly wants to sleep in the day even how much she tries to make him sleep. Even when I stay over at my mom's place, he'll only nap for half to one hour in the day aft feeding. And I think cld also be that he gets more excited seeing other ppl ard. And at night, he wld sleep longer hours at my mom's as compared to when we're at home (which I like cz I cld sleep even longer!) For babies, they will eventually know how to adjust their sleep. They may have short naps in the day but longer sleeping hours at night. More so for babies 3 months and older. I'm not sure abt you but I prefer it this way as I cld rest more. As long baby is not fussy and cranky, and drinks his milk as usual, don't worry abt it.