MIL wants to stay after birth of child

My mother-in-law who stays in India wants to stay with me after birth in Singapore. She is caring but has very old thinking. Since this is my first pregnancy I want people around me who are positive and strong. My MIL is very emotionally very weak, she has her ways. I don't want any clothing restrictions at that time or unnecessary advice like she is saying me we should not use diaper for baby, baby can get Bad eye of parents or I shouldn't go out of house for atleast 2 months. Should eat,eat,eat after birth. I don't want her around honestly but my husband wants her. I know she will be no help with cleaning but will just be giving her advise. What should I do?

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As hard as it can be, tell a firm NO to your husband. You need to seek alternative to persuade him. Eg, hire a helper/nanny or you prefer your mom to help because she would be familiar with your living habits (and it’s easier to communicate with our own mothers). You need a valid point to push this mil plan away.

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1y ago

I see. Maybe you can use the excuse of lack of living space at home? It’s ok if your mil is only here to visit (hinting your husband that it’s cannot be a long stay) but make it FIRM that your mother will be in charge of the newborn and your wellbeing. I was like you, didn’t want any nonsense or tiring myself to explain why this and why that to my mil, so I told my husband that I want my mom to be with me during confinement. Best of luck to you!

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