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Faham, tak semua kita boleh sehaluan dgn keluarga in law. Tapi ada kelebihan juga sis boleh pertimbangkan. 1) Are you working? If Yes, then nanti siapa yang akan jaga anak? At least she can help to take care of your baby. 2) Untuk hantar ke babysitter, perlu hati yang kental. Kita tak tau orang jaga anak kita macam mana. Bukan nak kata nak take advantage on her, just kita lebih percaya jika keluarga sendiri yang jaga anak kita. Saya pun tak serasi dengan mertua. Bila suami nak kami stay rumah mertua, saya dah siap² letakkan syarat untuk keselesaan rumah tangga kami. Suami kena faham dan cuba layan seadilnya. Tapi untuk "FOREVER" tu 😭 macam tak ada life la pula. At least duduk rumah lain, just hantar baby rumah dia, ok lagi.
try discuss dengan husband lagi.. still boleh consider kalau mil nak stay kl.. but husband kena provide rumah lain yang dekat ke apa.. but please bukan satu rumah laa.. sebab u said it will be FOREVER kan.. memang a big no laa untuk siapa2 pun.. totally lost privacy kita dengan husband.. plus takut mil akan pertikai cara didikan kita towards anak nanti.. please cakap baik2 dengan husband untuk consider your feelings.. kesian you.. be strong girl!!
Hi sis. I dah try discussing and the only reason he says is that he doesn’t have a father and he needs to take care of his mom. Mcm I’m the bad guy here. And husband’s income dah cukup2 for both of us and we need to support baby after this. We bought a new house so we can’t afford to put mother in law in a different house too (plus she won’t go too.) And my mother in law’s way of thinking pun so traditional and old school. Mmg judgemental. You have to think twice before saying anything because she will judge your character. So I kesian pulak kat baby I if the baby’s mind also turns like that if she takes care of the baby. Nnti kena buli kat sekolah ke ape. I mmg stress lah sis. Like I said there’s really no solution to this. But I’m sure there will be surely disagreements and arguments with my mil later if she comes. But I have to face it. When it comes to privacy, I think I can’t ask for it anymore 😭
U r not a bad person.. we want to live our life with freedom and privacy.. having others family member in our home really is stressful.. ur mil should ur ur opinion first..
He did and I said what I could possibly deliver in a politest way. But he has no options since his mother is very conservative and she gets offended or defensive about it even when he tries to start that topic. And you’re totally right about the commitment part because I just got retrenched from my job and I need to find a new job for our sake and the baby’s sake. The expenses are already going up and if she’s here, we have to support her too. In this case, it’s my mother in law who needs a clear understanding but she’s from a very conservative background and no way she could possibly understand this without getting offended. And not to mention if that happens, that could possibly damage my relationship with my husband as well.
If i were you, i would feel the same sis..have heart to heart talk with him,
I tried dear. He said he understood but he can’t say no to her since his dad passed away and as the only son he feels the responsibility. But what about my feelings? Back in their days, my mother in law chose to live a separate life from her own mother in law. I just don’t know what to do anymore.
Everyone would think so? Nah count me out.
Haha perhaps it’s gonna be the same thing for me
Does your husband an only child?
He has a sister but his sister clearly doesn’t wanna take the responsibility. Even she comes to stay with us for every holiday which makes it difficult for me to have alone time with my husband.
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