Mother in law from hell?

Mother in law’s reaction to me being pregnant for the second time? 1) telling my hub that i should “tie my tubes” in case i get pregnant again. Reason? She doesnt think i’m a good mum based on her standards (need to be like her, she takeaway 1 packet of food, she give to her child then just chew on plain bread and say she always give the best to her children). Lol. 2) We dont stay together. She told me she want to help with my first born, 6 years old now, on sundays. I bring him over. As the weeks go by, she need to broadcast and mention to my hub that she’s helping us take care of our child. After she know about the pregnancy, she told us “ya to you guys good news, but i dont think its good news to me.” 3) She’s worried that we will “trouble” her financially or physically but me and my hub earn comfortable salary and most times, when i have something urgent, my parents are the ones who help out with my firstborn. 4) I dont feel comfortable enough for her to look after my second one also. Like who smacks a 6 year old for spelling a word wrong or for being “noisy” aka singing songs in the living room? Who says “use your brain, dont be stupid” to a primary 1 kid? 5) Today she messaged my hub saying “Please dont bring the baby back” and “ask her mother to take care.” LOL. Feel unappreciated. CNY i gave her an angbao, her birthday i bring her out to celebrate. Mothers day i even bought gold for her (she just say oh ok i’ll open when i’m free”. I’m not asking her to treat me like royalty but at least dont be so kns right? Just ranting. I know my points are all over the place but yeah. I feel better after yapping about it. Haha. #MotherInLaw

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If I were you, I would meet her lesser and being so nice to her, like buying gold. I feel there’s no point spending so much when she’s not even appreciative. Such mother in law… I cannot take it. I would not ask her for help. You can try to talk to your husband about it. I would rather you spend on your own mother instead? Furthermore, your parents are the ones who always help you out. I think you should use the money to treat your own parents better.

I dont ask her for her help but she insisted. So i agreed cos I dont want my hub to feel sandwiched. He talked to her but she’s still the same. Reason why i spend money on her is because her kids (my hub and his brother) both dont remember her birthday or buy things for her. But my family culture is to celebrate all the little things together. Altho i spend way more on my parents, i wanted her to feel appreciated thats why i took the effort. But seems to me she doesn’t appreciate. Sigh.

Cut down on meetups, try to stay away from her as much as possible. She is mil from her and poor your children for having such grandma. Dont ever let her take care of any of your children. I totally understand what youre talking about. Not good news for her then ok, once my baby born dont ever come lolll she treat you like this then will keep calling and msging your husb why you guys rare come to her place

Oh and tell her tie her mouth lol

Better don’t ask her for help and ppl who don’t appreciate you will never do that no matter how good you treat her so just treat her show her normal respect not anything more

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