I think I'm one of the rare people who dont hav e a doting mother. Since young, she has been verbally and physically abusing me. There were many evil deeds that shes done to me that make me unable to respect her. The only time she was super enthusiastic was when I was getting married so she could ask for alot of monies and betrothal gifts from my hubby's family. But she didnt help me at all for the wedding, when I suffered miscarriage while renovating and moving into my current house, when I was preg, when I gave birth and even now. She would suddenly appear once in every 3 to 4 months to see my children and claims how much she loves us and that she would come help me with household chores every week. But after every visit, she would mia for another 3 to 4 months. I am very pissed with her especially after delivering #2 in feb. She only appeared twice (once when I just reached home from hospital and another when phase 2 just started). I feel that she always mia when I need her help and only appear after everything is settled. When #1 was 5wo and unwell I called her to accompany me to the clinic (being ftm with no CL), she just said shes busy and hung up on me. Sometimes she wont reply my messages. While these happened I can see photos of her going out with my sil being posted on social media. It is also maddening that she keeps claiming credits for anything concerning my children (but come on, you are not even around) and tell everyone that my children love her more than my in laws. She is very unappreciative also, I ever helped her and her husband paid off their debt and after that she said I had motives for helping. I am thinking to cut off ties with her, I dont feel like dealing with her anymore. Am I too extreme?