It seems that no matter what you do, she will find fault with you. Hence, I suggest you really sit and talk to your hub about it as this is his mother. Your mil might feel that u r stealing away her son or u r not as good as her in caring for your hub.
My friend's mil was like that and the breaking point was, mil scolded her till she cried. The couple eventually moved out and it actually helped the situation.
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