God Mother

Hello mommies! Just curious… May I know if you would allow any of your friends if they want to be your kid’s God Mother? Are there any expectations for being a God Mother to your kid? My friend wants to be my kid’s God Mother but she has never check up on me or my kid during my pregnancy. She even forgot my kid’s special milestones (gender reveal, EDD month etc). I even reminded her on the dates several times. What would you do? 🤔

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Hey there! It's great to hear that you're considering a God Mother for your kid. It's such a special role! In my opinion, choosing a God Mother for your child is a very personal decision. It's important to choose someone who will not only be there for your child spiritually, but also be involved in their life and support them as they grow up. If your friend has not been very involved in your pregnancy and has even forgotten important milestones, it's understandable that you may have some concerns about her ability to fulfill the role of a God Mother. It's important for the God Mother to be there for both you and your child, offering support and love. You could consider having an open and honest conversation with your friend about your expectations for the role of a God Mother. Let her know how important it is for you to have someone who will be involved in your child's life and be there for both of you. Express your concerns and see if she is willing to step up and be more present. Ultimately, the decision is up to you and what you feel is best for your child. It's important to choose someone who will be a positive influence and play an active role in your child's life. Trust your instincts and do what feels right for you and your family. Good luck! 🌸 https://invl.io/cll6she

I rarely communicate with my godmother who is my mom's best friend but I never doubt the sincerity she has towards my family and I will drop anything to help her if she ever needs it. but for my own kid, I do want the godparent to actually be present and be prepared to take care of my kid if anything happens to me and my husband. as others have commented, it's not just a title. your friend unfortunately just wants the title but doesn't put in a little bit of effort. definitely not deserving of the title and I'm sure your kid will realise when he or she is older. nothing worse than a "forced" godparent haha.

Traditionally, being a god mother is significant for Chinese. As the god child has responsibility to care for the god parents too, though not as heavily as their own children. So I wouldn’t commit easily. It’s not just a title. It has to be earned.