MIL with her myths etc

Hi all. My MIL is a nice person. She's very caring and helps us out with our newborn whenever we need. However, she has 1001 to- do things which I may not agree. 1. She has this idea of 'sweat it out'. So she always applies hot oil like yu yee (lots of it) and switch off the fan. It is the biggest issue everytime she comes over. Ours is a ceiling fan and we switch it at speed 3, which is mid speed. As the fastest is speed 6. She wants us to switch it off, swaddled our child and apply oil. We even put a blanket on our child. He is know close to 3 months old. Question: is it really good to sweat it out? I mean, our son is with us all the time. So if we switch off the fan, we will sweat too. 😓 it's so frustrating. By the end of the day, our child looks so greasyđŸ„ș she even wants us to let our child wears long sleeve whenever we go out and no fan to be placed on his stroller. Come on, sg is soo hot. Someone enlightens me please this theory of sweat it out. Even during my confinement, I was told to close the windows and no fan. I couldn't take it and shower at night. 2. She wants to introduce nestum to our child soon. Which I strongly oppose. She said we can put half a scoop to his formula feeding before bedtime. This is for him to sleep well? 3. She gave water to my son when he's 2 weeks old. Which again I oppose but I tried to be understanding. Later, I couldn't take it and told her to stop. 4. She likes to ask why my child sometimes is light skin whereas other time he is dark skin? What? That's all moms. Please calm me down.

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Hello Mummy! The 3 first points - I completely disagree with what she has done and thinking! We shld be careful especially is a 3 months baby, like ruyi oil.. I asked ard a couple of confinement ladies they said we can’t direct apply cos it will irritate e baby’s skin and might burn it! Why she need to sweat your baby in e first place?! For food, babies less than 6 months can’t drink water was because their stomach are still growing and drinking milk can already make them filling, if u give water it just take up the space and don’t forget about kidney.. Do remind her baby at this age should strictly be on either breast milk or formula only! For point 4 - ask her go check her eyesight! I think Mummy, u need to set your boundaries and share with your hubby on your thoughts and he should go talk to his mum if he don’t then u must step in and remind both of them! You’re your kid mother, if anything happens to him (because of your MIL) do you think she will be going to feel so hurt and taking care of him for life? Be strong Mummy! Fighting! 😊

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3y ago

Yes, please be “heartless” abit more and stand firm telling her what is yes and no! I also did e same just yesterday and I repeated it to my MIL.. I hope she don’t act deaf otherwise my hubby will be in trouble đŸ™ŠđŸ€­đŸ™Š Let’s keep fighting mummy anonymous! đŸ’ȘđŸ»