Recently my husband and I just bought a mattress.

It might be his parents idea to ask my to split the cost(to be honest I don't mind). But here is what I'm curious of, did his parents ask him to split the cost with me whateve thing I buy for our baby? I bought Drawer chest, baby crib, all the clothes and for hospital bill I pay as well. I can ask him to share the cost. But here is the point that we are husband and wife what do we buying thing and yet we have to split the cost? Those thing I pay for is for our baby. And the mattress if for us. End of the day is still for us and I didnt ask him to split the cost is because I feel that no need too. Not unless his parents think that we should?... Should I also ask him to split the cost of which everything I buy? I feel so uncomfortable to ask him pay. And I don't get it why he ask me to split the cost with thing we buying.

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I think it depends on your individual situation. For us we don't really mind the finances, but if one of us had been paying a lot of major bills (like recently my hubs had been paying for IVF costs because my cc doesn't have benefits) I will offer to transfer a lump sum to even out our personal bank accounts. If I were in your shoes where we had not been calculative about expenses and suddenly he asks to split bills I would be concerned and ask him why. Is he in financial difficulties? Did he think the current arrangement is unfair? If he wants to start splitting evenly this should apply to all shared major expenses, including the baby furniture and hospital bills, it cannot be just the items he pays for. You need to communicate with him, this is can be the start of a slippery slope you do not want to fall down.

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