Rather than that, I see it as actively loving each other. Sometimes, it involves giving in, sometimes it involves receiving from the other person, and sometimes, it’s neither. Both parties are working together as partners for a common goal. So I find it helpful to maintain good communication with my husband and make plans together, especially for when it comes to raising the kid, so that there’s no compromising on each of our needs, since we already know how we’re going to do things together and also give each other enough space to rest and have me time. Sounds difficult at first, but it’s actually not, after some practice. I must say, 8 years and 2 kids later, I’m loving my husband more and more.