Overwhelmed parents

Hi mummy! Congratulations on your new journey and hope you are doing okay. I understand that there are good and bad days but you'll get through this. Firstly, i understand that your MIL is willingly to 'help' you in some areas but the techniques that she does might be different. She's from a different generation hence her understanding on how to take care of a baby is different and most definitely you'd disagree. During my confinement days, my MIL was supposed to help me out but i do not like some of her methods hence I handled my LO in my own ways. At the end day, We're a mom and sacrifices are required. There are things we need to sacrifice like sleep time, freedom and much more. Instead of asking her to handle your baby, allow her to do the chores instead. Like the laundry or cooking. You should make a routine for your baby so that it can be a guidance/reference for your MIL. By reminding the dos and donts to her on regular basis will definitely offends her. For myself, I created a routine for my daughter and if ever I need anyone else to take care of my child, I am firm with the lists. We cannot depend everything on the elderly or even on your husband. Your husband is working and will not have many hours to learn and understand your baby as well. If you are planning not to work anytime soon then do create a routine. You've mentioned that your baby is a light sleeper so create a better sleeping enviroment for him or train him to sleep in other ways, to prepare better for the future. I've always trained my daughter to sleep in not so dark areas and not necessarily to be super damn quiet. Hence if I'm talking on the phone or light noises won't be able to wake her up from her naps. Do what's best for your baby and at the end of the day, you're the best caregiver for him. You can do this mummy, slowly but surely! ❤️

Not sure to envy you or not. I didn't have any help at all with my LO, we didn't have a confinement nanny (we don't trust them) and my parents and in-laws are too old to look after a newborn. Since day 1 it's just my husband and I. First 2 weeks still ok but after he returns to work it's just me and the baby. It's really tough in the beginning but we survived and I'm used to it now. My LO is going 7 months now and she is now in the infant care centre while I return to work. If you feel ur MIL isn't doing a good job, just drop her before the relationship turns sour. Look after your LO yourself, you can do it. We mothers are much stronger than we thought 💪trust yourself. jiayou!

Ur blessed to hv someone to help you. I didn’t when I had my second. I had to manage my son n baby myself n do all the housework too. I know how tiring it is. Perhaps u can get ur mil to help with the house chores instead of managing the baby. At least if u look aft bb urself it will be more reassuring. Sleep when baby sleep. N u won’t feel too overwhelmed.

you can try to put baby in infant care, I definitely feel safer putting baby in infant care compared to MIL. you can say it very nicely that you want to lessen her burden. win win

Yes, hire a daytime nanny and say it’s to help both you and MIL. It seems like the best solution because there’s only so much your MIL can do to meet your needs.

Get a day nanny. Say nicely to mil that nanny will help take care of baby so mil do not need to do two tasks like doing chores and babysitting.