feeling down

ive been feeling down ever since my mil demanded that i stayed at their house, considering that it's only "right" that the girl should be living with the guy family rather her own. i had my confinement at my own parents home and my mil wasnt too happy about it hence giving my husband a lot of problems. he feels like he is stuck between his mother and me, so i gave in and moved to my in law place. i know it's good to an extend that my mil can help me care for my lo but sometimes when she do, i feel unhappy. situations like, when baby cries in the morning she will barge into the room and keep questioning "why?? is it baby hungry?!" when I'm already warming my ebm for baby. i dont know is it because I'm a young mom at 22 that im having mixed feelings about my lo like, im conflicted with myself - i miss my own time but yet i hate the idea of my mil taking care of my baby. i dont rly know how to put it but my emotions are everywhere.. it's bad to the point i can cry even when nothing went wrong. and have this heavy feeling in my chest. i don't know what to do, i rly want to stay back at my own home as im more comfortable there and honestly ive no problem caring for my lo myself as ive already done so during my confinement. but yet i dont want to cause stress/trouble for my husband. and my MIL is a difficult person. i just feel sad.

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i know your feeling, when my first one was born, my mil come with a confinement nanny (friend of her) to help me. I feel a bit depress every morning when they know the baby has woke up, they will come in and take the baby away, then give it back to me when she's hungry, then took her away when the feeding is done. I feel like cow, only hv my baby when milking time. My hubby tells me they only want me to take a rest, but maybe they should ask if I need help or not instead of snatching her away that really pissed me off. And she kept saying I have a low supply, even if that's true, she should help me with healthy food, not keep telling about my low supply. Now for the 2nd one I really don't want them to come helping me if my condition is allowed. I think stress is worse than fatigue, I can manage to work harder with my healthy mind.

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