Hubby’s duty

I’ve been crying almost every week ever since the arrival of my baby because I feel my hubby is not understanding. He kept saying (once a week at least) that I do nothing whole day other than feeding the baby while he has to do all the household chores and he is tired. I felt so hurt when he made that kind of comment. He is now wfh while I’m on my maternity leave. I took care of the feeding (breastfeeding) and coaxing my baby (hard to put her to sleep/nap) as well as night duty and my hubby will do household chores (laundry and vacuum floor) and carry baby when I need to bath. I asked him to help bathe baby but He thinks that I should bathe baby since he is working and I’m on maternity leave. Is it too much to ask hubby to bathe baby since he is already not involved in feeding, diaper change, night duty, coax baby when cry? I feel so helpless now.

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Hugs to u mummy! I feel u too. After my CN left, me & husband struggled to take care baby also. Our family not in sg & we don’t have helper. Me & husband discuss & we decide he do the ‘night shift’ while I do ‘morning & afternoon shift’. I do household chore as many as I can manage & while baby is sleeping. We also order tingkat for our dinner. Even then, during weekend, my husband can just playing games while I fed baby, wash baby bottles, hang clothes, prepare dinner, wash my baby dirty clothes due to poo. And I explode tell my husband to at least help a bit. I think talk with ur hubby is important. Say what u think and feel & please don’t be too hard on ur self. If u have no issue with $, i suggest u hire helper or part time cleaner to do housecleaning. I’ve been on ur position. The struggle is real & I also keep crying in the first 2 months after I give birth. Remember ur baby need u. Happy mummy = happy baby!

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