Hubby’s duty

I’ve been crying almost every week ever since the arrival of my baby because I feel my hubby is not understanding. He kept saying (once a week at least) that I do nothing whole day other than feeding the baby while he has to do all the household chores and he is tired. I felt so hurt when he made that kind of comment. He is now wfh while I’m on my maternity leave. I took care of the feeding (breastfeeding) and coaxing my baby (hard to put her to sleep/nap) as well as night duty and my hubby will do household chores (laundry and vacuum floor) and carry baby when I need to bath. I asked him to help bathe baby but He thinks that I should bathe baby since he is working and I’m on maternity leave. Is it too much to ask hubby to bathe baby since he is already not involved in feeding, diaper change, night duty, coax baby when cry? I feel so helpless now.

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Sending you love and hugs. Be kind and gentle to yourself. I’m sure your husband love you and your baby. It is understandable that with the arrival of a newborn, both your routine will change drastically. Hence both of you need time to adjust to it. At such situation, both of you need to be more mindful of how each other feel. Communication and understanding is very important. Try to empathise with each other. He is not putting you down or blaming you for not doing more, he is only sharing his feeling with you. And for you it is the same. What I read is both of you are shouting out loud of your respective exhaustion, which is totally understandable. Do sit down and work out what can be done. Example, get a part time helper/nanny, but a vacuum/moping robot. Anything that help to share the loads. It is not worth fighting over who should do what and who should do more or less. This is a partnership, both share the loads, sometimes you do more, other time he do more. If both are too tired, get help. Take good care and don’t let negative feeling or thought eat into you. Be empower to take charge and make positive changes to be in control. A happy mama, a loving and united family. God bless you and your family. May love, health, harmony, happiness, surround you and your family. ❤️

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