Is public shaming good parenting?

Your child may have made a bad choice or done something unacceptable, but this isn't the sum of your child. You know that. You know that while she/he may have done something you don't like, it's doesn't mean she/he is bad. She/he is just learning and we all make mistakes, it's important that your child know this. If you publicly shame your child, especially if that post goes viral, than this will become something that defines your child. Friends, family members and total strangers will remember your child be this one mistake. Which can end becoming a source of deep seated emotional and psychological issues of down the track. So, stop it! :)

Not at all, I have a vivid memory of my mum laughing at me when I was really young because I couldn't find her at the mall and followed another woman (thinking it was my mum) while crying badly - until the woman turned and I saw she wasn't my mum. Then I heard my mum and some other people (my relatives probably, couldn't remember the background) laughing at me from afar and ran to her - but she just kept laughing. Was probably 4-5 years old or so. Be it scolding, disciplining or silly things like this, it's still considered public shaming and shouldn't be done (at all, or at least not in public).

I wouldn't do that. At max child could only be told off in front of his/her family. The point is only to make them realise their mistake which you could do by telling them how their actions adversely affects others and even themselves. Public shaming could make them feel so uncomfortable and embarrassed that they might stop listening to you at all out of anger. They respect you and what you say, you would not want your child to devalue all this because of your constant complaining in front of others. Do not loose your child's faith.

We all know how naughty kids can get but I personally don't like the idea of public shaming based from experience. It will most likely lead to negative effects on your child as well as negative effect in your relationship with him/her. Instead of public shaming, why not try focusing on ways to divert his/her attention when he/she is about to go nuts? Or if he/she misbehaves, you can give him/her certain consequences (could be an activity/chore) that can lead into development of positive behaviour.

I don't think public shaming is good. My parents don't educate me by public shaming me. So I will not do that to my kids too. Here's some discussions on public shaming that i came across online: http://www.bellybelly.com.au/parenting/10-reasons-why-you-shouldnt-publicly-shame-kids/ http://www.theroot.com/articles/culture/2015/03/is_public_shaming_the_right_way_to_discipline_kids/ http://www.todaysparent.com/blogs/on-our-minds/public-shaming-is-bad-parenting-so-stop-it/

I am bought up in such family, it is the worst feeling I ever have and until now it is still in me. Sometimes I wonder why do I care about what other said about me so much and could it be due to this experience. Children are little adults, ask yourself this, "will you like your mother/wife/husband do it to you in the public?" if you don't like it, don't apply to other which include your children.

It highly depends on how old the kids is, what medium you use for shaming etc.. !! I am strongly against shaming on social networks since anything can go viral nowadays and leave a stigma on the kid's life. When the kid is young, public shaming (in front of other people) up to a certain extent is ok according to me. It should be just enough to make the child realize about their mistake.

Noooo. I don't think it's a good idea either. It can work but if it backfires, it backfires in the worst possible way. I've been in instances of public shaming when I was younger and looking back, it was pretty traumatizing and embarrassing :( I believe that effective punishment can be done at home or somewhere private. No need for public punishments :(

Would you like it? consider how would you grow up if you went through it. Same for your kid. let him grow. if he's messy at something at young age, he'll get it later. every kid has different pace to improve. let your kid know that you love him/her. and they'll do everything to avoid embarrassing you. trust me

I think it's ok to discipline them in public, but only using the correct methods. I wouldn't suggest yelling at them in public (or even when you're not). Kids emotions are very gentle and you will scar them for life. And this will affect their social behaviour in the future.