My inlaws expects me to remember their birthdays, anniversary but when it's my birthday they never wish me. On my anniversary too they wish my husband and not me. I find them to be too egoist and I get irritated by their behaviour. What to do to not get stressed?

okay so let's play fair here and stop calling them on theirs. I may sound very aggressive the point is that love and respect is a two way thing. u r already stressed and unhappy about this and rightfully so. after a certain age, we really should stop people pleasing and live a happy and healthy life.. so if they tell you you haven't called them, tell them that you feel the same way when they don't remember your special days