I told him not continue the marriage

I'm so stressed, napakasensitive ko sa mga bagay bagay. Konting salita lang na ang dating sa akin ay hindi maganda, naiinis na ako, hindi na ako umiimik Hanggang sa magaway na kami. It's all my fault napakaKJ ko. Kahit normal lang na words nagiging big deal sa akin. Ako ang naguumpisa ng hindi namin pagkikibuan. Ako ang naguumpisa ng away. LDR kami may mga bagay na gusto niya pagusapan like sexual fantasy. Hindi ako sanay sa mga ganyan, sumasakay ako sa una but nageend ng bad conversation kasi hindi maganda para sa akin. Kahit sabihin niya na fantasy lang not real, nagiging bad mood agad ako . May mga bagay na hilig niya na hindi ko hilig like metal music, video games hindi ko naman kasi nakahiligan un. He's trying to talk about it showing those games I'm listening but can't relate. And he thinks I'm not interested. Fast forward one day there's one thing na naging bad mood na naman ako we didn't talk for days we still texting but cold. And then we say things he told me everything our difference. All those simple things that makes me upset so easily. Can't even have deeper conversation. I said sorry, he said not to say sorry it's not my fault. It's not about me. It's the character, the compatible. I asked him is it still worth it to live together?, are we gonna be a happy family? He said i don't know. I told him let's not get married. I'm a mess i don't want him to regret in the end. We're expecting a baby this coming Dec. I'm so stress, I'm so weak, I'm experiencing insomnia. What should i do? Is it enough that u love each other?

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Hi. First of all, don't gaslight yourself, own your feelings. It's not your fault and hindi ka KJ if hindi mo trip ang trip ng bf/fiancé mo. It's normal, there will always be similarities and differences between couples. Communication is always the key to everything, and it's always two ways. Both of you should be able to talk and listen to each other. Identify the problem and find a solution. Communicate the compromises you two can make to each other and set the limitations/boundaries. But if the problem is very big that'll surely affect your marriage then do what you want, don't proceed with the wedding.

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3y ago

Thank you for your answer